Severing Emotional Ties
Cut the cords and
take back your energy
by Maryam Henein
Every time you physically interact with someone, you run the chance of "cording," meaning you create attachments (or emotional cords) that facilitate the exchange of energy between you and that person. These cords are said to be made of aura light, a kind of cosmic taffy that binds you together. And the closer you get (physically), the stronger the cords become. This explains why some people stay with us long after they're gone, or often we just can't seem to "let go." We need to learn to cut the cord(s)!
Since the depth of the connection established between you and any given person depends on the level of physical interaction you've had, it follows that cords with those you know most intimately are strongest. For instance, sexual intercourse (or even a deep kiss) can result in being corded to someone for seven years. Some even argue that a handshake can establish a cord. It's no wonder some people don't like extending a hand to strangers!
According to Barbara Brennan, the best selling author of Hands of Light, there are five types of cords: soul cords, past life experience cords, genetic cords (connection to birth parents), parental relationship cords, and relationship cords. Since they are formed on the fourth aura layer and higher, these cords remain intact "before and beyond three dimensional physical space." In other words, once they are made, these cord connections never dissolve, although it is possible that they get damaged, tangled or "dirty."
That's when it's time to start snipping!
Why cord cutting is necessary
If you are unaware that your cords exist, it is easy to feel the other person's emotions and mistakenly think that they're yours. Moreover, cords can limit the amount of closure you can experience when a relationship is over. Keeping cords alive can also leave you with a continued sense of sadness for much longer than necessary; deplete you of your life juice and leave you feeling depressed, explains John Evans, ritual master, Cabbalist and owner of The White Lotus, a spiritual center in Los Angeles disguised as a book and gift shop.
Think about it: do you really want negative vibes flowing between you and your ex? They exist regardless who ended the relationship. When you understand that, cutting emotional cords sounds like a very good idea. It's particularly ideal if you've gone through a break-up, a divorce, quit a job, moved, undergone the death of a loved one, or if you are at the dawn of a new relationship.
"It helps you move forward, leave behind old baggage, unnecessary attachments, and release you from connections that are no longer serving you," says Evans. who practices a cord cutting modality that has a 3000 year teacher-to-student lineage. Basically, it clears space for more positive connections.
The ancient practice is also beneficial if you would like to upgrade the vibration of your existing relationship. You can then re-cord but you need to resist playing into old established patterns (this appears as any button pushing that upsets or angers you).
How to determine if you're ready to do it.
Do not undergo this ritual if you are still mourning. You need those emotional cords to get you through the process. If you cut cords prematurely, the mourning period will feel even more intense, notes Evans. Make sure you are mentally prepared to move onwards and upwards.
To determine if cord cutting is for you, ask yourself: Are you co-dependant? Do you have difficulty being alone? Are you hypsensitive? Are you ready to let go of a relationship that is no longer serving you?
If so, it's best to seek out a professional. You can contact Evans who is in touch with ritual masters across the nation and a skilled psychic can certainly help. If you feel ready to proceed alone, try the meditation below in the comfort of your own home.
A cord cutting meditation:
Before you start, it is important that you feel relaxed and that you set a strong intention to release the cords that exist between you and someone else.
To begin, breathe deeply and perform a simple centering meditation.
When you are ready, visualize or sense the cords that are connecting you to other people.
Run your fingers through the cords to separate them until you find the cord you wish to sever.
There is no need to worry, because the cord you need to sever will feel just right.
When you have found it, determine where the cut should be made and then visualize the cord being cleanly cut.
If you need assistance, Archangel Michael can be called upon to help you with his sword.
Afterwards, if you feel that cutting the cord has left spaces in your energy field, visualize those spaces being filled with healing sunlight.
Keep in mind that you're not severing a relationship;
you are severing the cords that are no longer serving you both. At other times, a cord may simply refuse to be cut because it is still serving a higher purpose. It is also important to remember that cutting a cord with someone is not a replacement for doing your emotional work.
This is a positive and nurturing act.
By cutting the cords that no longer need to be there, you are simply setting yourself and others free from the ties that bind.
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