Well ty for this, im going to check it out.  Aging hasnt bothered me too much at all, in fact i think i look better and define. know more than when i was younger.  But menopause has hit me, and i hate it truely.  Forget hot flashes not there yet, but sex drive pretty much gone, my husband not happy w. that at all.  Sorry, when you been married for 23 yrs. to the same man you cant fake desire.  And my mood swings,omg, my whole life is in jeopardy with this.  Im wondering who this other person is, once a month so far.  Lol, the woman in my doctors office says, "oh this is all natural just a part of life."  Yeah and ill bet her husband is cheating on her w. that attitude.  I have an appt. w. a specialist in Feb., and yes i want drugs, for my mood and my sex drive, i refuse to accept this as natural.  Please dont tell me to diet, ive never had to do that in my life, and i dont have to now, I am within my weight for my height. 

I never had a problem with my sex drive...but I was born horny and will probably die that way.  My menopause was surgically induced (hysterectomy) maybe that had something to do with it.  I refused hormonal replacement therapy because the insurance plan I have only allows for Premarin and I refuse to allow an animal to suffer just so I can be "comfortable".  It's been 14 years since my "histie" and I couldn't have gotten a better present for my 40th birthday!

thanx for the info....the only thing i have is hotflashes...i stick my head in the freezer, or run outside in the cold...i don't want 2 take any meds...the only meds i'm on is booze and cigs...lol

Thank you all for the advice and laughs, booze and cigs.  I did read alot of the messages on the menopause link.  Some of it helpful, some of it downright scary,lol.  Im not depressed at least not yet.  But if i were to give up my wine, coffee, chocolate omg, now that would define. depress me.  I also smoke.  Cuttin down yes.  Now if it were possible to cut all this stuff out and be looking like i was skin wise at say 35 or even 40 and guarantee that i would live to be very old then hell yeah.  Being happy is the most important thing to me.  If the Dr. cant do anything for this then i will just do the best i can. 

Belladona, I went on estridial and was very depressed, suicideal, many other things.  My dr suggested what they call a Natural Hormone Replacement that he has to still perscribe but it is in a compounding pharmancy.  They mix the medication for each person, specialized in what you need.  I have been so greatful, so much better, and the sex drive is back, only one hot flash during the night, no mood swings.  You can find these compunding pharmacies I think everywhere.  This is a number for mine

1-877-733-3779, didnt need any tests just asked questions.  You do have to find a dr that will perscribe it though.  Tell me if it works out.

 

P.S. Married for 32 yrs.

cass

www.reedsrx.com is their website.  My pills have testostrom,progestrone,estrogen because I dont have anything female left (cause was endometriosis).  So I cant make anything for my body.  But it has helped in our sex life which I think he really needed more than me, although I enjoy it more than I ever did during our first 25 years.