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I haven't talked about my younger son in a while who has given us so much heartache. I stay in a state of confusion over him because he has caused tremendous pain to my dh and I. To much to post! He knows how we feel. When he had 10 days off the end of October we offered him a plane ticket to come to Missouri for whatever time he wanted where I was with his Dad and he said no that we should come home. He didn't want to leave where he was and his friends. His Dad asked how much time he would have if we came home and he told us he would fit us in his schedule with much sarcasism. As a result of the comment we did not go back nor have I seen him since he left in July for BootCamp.  We talked to him and made it very clear how we felt and what we expected from him otherwise he was not to even call us again. Since then he has called us alot. After his time off he returned to begin his next phase and found out he has a circular fracture in the thigh area so he is in rehab in the medic area for at least two months. His group went on without him. He is able to call all he wants while in rehab. He is trying to get approval to take his rehab in Illinois which doesn't please me since he lives down the street. That just makes the need to sell my home all the more urgent for me. I hate him living there but thats what he wants. He spent the Thanksgiving weekend with a friends family who lives in SanDiego. He called us about 15 times during his 4 days just being there. We know he is homesick and that is real. He sent me a beautiful huge arrangement of flowers that are just beautiful. I was pleasantly surprised. He was happy to hear what they meant to me. I know he is feeling sentimental not being with us for Thanksgiving for the first time in his life. I can't believe alot of what he is saying till the holidays all pass in January then see how he is. He is feeling a lot of emotion lately and I feel its related to being away from home for the first time on a family holiday. He shares alot with us about what all he does and gets away with in SanDiego. Some things just don't change. I hope he doesn't get in any trouble there. Who knows what the future holds. I feel he will one day see the light and mature to where he realizes what he has done to us then we can go forward. Anyway thanks for listening if you made it this far in my post. LOL!! Angelbear |
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| | From:  DarcAnn | Sent: 11/28/2005 4:11 AM |
Angelbear, Thanks for the update. I know that it hasn't been easy with this situation with your son..............but we are all here for you whenever you need us. Take care of yourself my dear friend... Darc  |
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I don't know all the history of your son but I do applaud your being strong when he has treated you badly. It appears that his homesickness is encouraging him to take baby steps towards you. He has a lot of time to think in rehab and perhaps the military life is teaching him to face life and become a man. One does not become a man until he has to and now maybe the time he has to. My thoughts are with you - take strength and courage from the fact that you nurtured him, loved him and raised him correctly. This is what he is really made of and he will finally realize it. Jeanne |
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Oh Angelbear, 15 phone calls in four days and flowers....that has to say it all. I know it's been hard for you but it seems to me that underneath his tough exterior is a boy who is missing his mum. hugs Squinty |
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I sure agree with Squinty. What a good looking son you have! Kids do cause heartache. No doubt about it. They test our love and patience. I say if your son is calling and sending flowers, you must be doing something right. How does your other son feel about things? Do the brothers talk? |
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| | | From: jewel | Sent: 11/28/2005 12:14 PM |
| I was wondering how things were going..... Thanks for the update.... Sometimes they just need to mature..... To me he also sounds homesick and that is a good thing... He really appreciates you.... The floweres, the calls..... I believe he knows what he is missing...The military makes them grow up fast and teaches them to appreciate their family.....He is so handsome in his uniform..... Keep thinking positive..... Hugs, jewel |
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What a handsome soldier ! I'm so glad to know he is making this effort. It sure seems as if he is missing you all...and when more do we think about how much family means to us than on Thanksgiving...I'm sure you are right that this first holiday away from you was very hard for him. But I hope things continue to move in a positive direction. |
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I ALSO AGREE WITH SQUINTY. HE IS HOME SICK. HE MISSES HIS MOM. AND PENNY.... HE IS A HANDSOME YOUNG MAN. I PRAY HE WILL BE HOME SOOOOOON. JOYCE  |
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Thank you everyone. Its along way down the road to repair this situation but we are going forward slowly, we'll see where it takes us. Joan- You asked how my older son felt and if they talk. Nothing has changed. He does not want to even hear about him, negative or positive. |
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Angelbear: I hope it all works out for the best. It is great when families can get along, but that isn't always doable. May you have peace and happiness while this is all unfolding. Hugs, Josie. |
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Joann- Thanks! He's definitely a cutie. His big blue eyes don't show up in the picture. He really has a heart of gold when he wants to. |
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