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| | From:  Angelbear233 (Original Message) | Sent: 8/12/2004 9:53 AM |
In your experience have you learned more about a person on-line than you normally would have if you had first met them person off-line? Have your adventures of meeting, chatting online been more or less complex than off-line meeting and dating? I hope this isn't too much but it's nothing but us ladies here so I'm hoping this is a safe topic I know we all have on-line stories, please share I'm curious is the there really a big difference? Online v. Off-line. Im quite sure it's safe for me to conclude that you have all at one point in time exchanged emails with someone with the intentions of possibly meeting and later dating, "hooking up" or whatever right? So lets hee your stories... I've met someone and I've seen him...ahahahahahha Yup he's a real nice guy and not bad on the eyes. Big fal walrus cheeks and we actually share the same views on several things and enjoy the same type of movies. IE: Horror flicks, Creatures, comedies etc. Angel Dilly, Ad and Red I swear I'm being careful. This person and I have had many many late night conversations just laughing joking and shooting the breeze as they say. But ll in all I think he's a really nice guy. What's to come of it I have no idea. Time will tell as they say. The funny thing is the more I talk about the friendship the more I hear about ppl hooking up w/ an online friend and things working out for them in the long run. Man oh man is that weird/scary b/c I never thought I'd hear about soemthing like that. I guess it's true what they say you learn something new everday. | | |
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| | | From: grandma | Sent: 8/13/2004 11:23 PM |
Yes the fundamental, basic lie was the problem for me too. My friend and I were discussing the fact that we have both met men who HONESTLY THINK they are taller than they are....it's really sad. It's as if they have psyched themselvelves into believing it. As for my date....no I didn't draw his attention to it, as I felt I would have undermined his masculinity and I would rather not do that.  Here's my frog.........One day My Prince will come! |
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I'm new to this group, and find this topic to be right down my alley. I'll start by confessing that I have met someone online...and I will also confess that I am married and it was my first affair. Trust me, this isn't something that I am proud of...hopefully, I won't be judged too harshly by any of you for my huge mistake. Like I said, I met him online....he seemed perfect. He always said the right things at the right time. I found myself living for his e-mails and his once a week phone call. I can honestly say, I think I have never been more in love. After 6 months, we finally met. To say he was nothing like the person he had portrayed himself to be is an understatement. I ended up hating him and hating myself for what I had done. That was about 3 years ago. I now consider the time I foolishly wasted on this person a case of temporaty insanity. If I ever did get involved with another person online, I would be alot more cautious and try desperately to not believe everything they said. |
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Terrie- you won't be judged on here, please feel free to discuss what you need and we will be here for you. Angelbear |
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| | | From: grandma | Sent: 9/7/2004 12:35 AM |
I am experiencing the on line dating "game" right now. It is really weird to say the least. To actually be waiting for that "strangers" call and to hear their declaration of "love" when you have not ever met them takes on line/phone dating to a whole new level. Right now I have a gentleman in California who is sooooo lonely and an abolute sweetheart....but what do I really know? Nothing! I also have talked all through the hurricane with another Brit, who lives in Melbourne FL. He was scared and lonely, but says he now wants to sell his house, move here to Phoenix and try to start a life with me....but what do I really know?....Nothing. I have had some more "coffee" dates here in my town...and nothing special has happened or should I say no one special has happened......so what do you do ladies? Does the fact that there is a huge distance between the two parties lead us to greater romance, because somehow it might be "safer". I don't believe anything anyone says...but am I missing out? All I know is that I spend far more time on the phone these days and share confidences that perhaps would be better kept to myself. (Oh don't worry, nothing financial ) Anyway, I'm meeting up with ten people the weekend of the 18th in CA...my CA man will be among those people....so I'll let ya'll know!!!! Liz |
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| REPOSTED HERE From: grandma | Sent: 9/20/2004 9:37 PM | | OK so it's Monday night and I feel I haven't contributed anything FOR EVER. I wanted to share my experience of this weekend with you all. I joined a group called Senior Friend Finders about three months ago and have had several dates with various men. This weekend I went to San Clemente where I met someone with whom I had been talking and a group of other people living in that area. I drove over with a wonderful gentleman who came up from Tucson, picked me up and then drove to San Clemente...we had never met before (don't worry I checked him out BIGTIME) He was a perfect gentleman and we had a fascinating conversation for 6 or 7 hours each way. We were entertained in style in a most beautiful home and had a really great time....8 of us all of whom had met in a chat room. So I am here to tell you all ladies..if you do your homework and really use caution, you can meet some really great ladies, gentlemen and couples on these sites. I stepped outside my usual comfort zone and IT WORKED. Liz | |
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What an interesting read!! WOW all - thats great sharing going on here! Yes, its pretty scary stuff isnt it? I started to exchange emails with a man that didnt live too far from me. It was just a fluke that we started chatting in a PUBLIC chat room! I bought a computer, from myself on my 40th birthday! Low and behold the world of chat! I have worked on a computer since...geez.. 1976...but career since 1984. (20yrs at the same company now!). Anyhoo, we chatted thru email for about 1.50yrs.. until we met. Yes, I was still married, but going thru the divorce stages. We had several nice dates.. he was normal and I found no red flags at all. But the killer was, that he had been seperated from his wife at the time for 3yrs..divorce not in progress and had two of his 4 sons living with him. One of which, the youngest one, had a physical ailment which required alot of attention and money. I finally found that I was going to be # 5 on his list of priorities. That doesnt work for me at all. The kids were from ages 17 down to 11, at the time. So, sometimes there are people, nice men out there, but you have to decide what is YOUR priority at this stage of life. I had and still do have a stepdaughter, now the age of 16yrs old (and driving with her own car now! aacck!), that I knew from the age of 1.50yrs old. She is my little buddy and nothing, even divorce will ever change that and she feels the same way. SO- keep on looking, but screen them out a bit closer!! LOL...  |
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Thats right, don't give up. Do you belong to any of those match makers online now? |
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| | | From: grandma | Sent: 10/12/2004 7:58 PM |
I have been "on-line" "dating" for about four months now. I have met several local men, one of whom really interests me. We meet regularly for a glass of wine and I found out recently that he's a great kisser! However he is not looking to settle down even into a steady monogomous relationship...so that is not going any further for sure!!! (just my luck). I have also gone to California (from AZ) to meet a group of people all of whom were chatting on line...it was great and I made several new friends, all of whom have a great deal in common with each other. Now here's the biggie...I have been IM ing with a British gentleman who lives in FL and has been looking for a Brit with whom to spend the rest of his life. Lo and behold yesterday sailing through cyber space, came an airline ticket, a hotel reservation, his social security number, name, address and the name of his sister who lives here in AZ. He's really serious...wants us to meet just for a couple of days and give each other the "once over". HMMMMMM ladies should I step outside the box and do something totally insane? If anyone is interested the name of the site is Senior Friend Finders and I have had nothing but positive introductions. Liz |
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As you may have read in my profile when I joined, I met my second husband online. We both joined an msn community three years ago within two weeks of each other, and as fate would have it, or destiny, serendipity, whatever you want to call it - it was meant to be. We just gravitated to each other out of 2500 other members. It was a huge community, obviously. We quickly moved to emails, then phone. I feel we really got to know each other inside and out mentally without anything else getting in the way. We were always honest and up front with each other. 13 months later (we took our time!) we met in San Francisco, where he went on business. This was October 14, 2002. (anniversary approaching Thursday!) Then we met again in January, March, April - all in San Francisco. We saw each other throughout the summer, he moved here in August, got an apartment and we "dated" We got married April 24, 2004, in - where else - San Franciso, in Ghirardelli Square. True love can most definitely be found online, whether a "formal" dating site or even a community or chat room.   |
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Liz, I see nothing wrong in meeting this gentleman. I would only suggest that you make sure that the meetings are in public places until you get to know more about him. Let us know if you decide to go and how the meeting is. adair |
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I've tried to write to several of the women on this thread to ask how things are going for them and an update.......they aren't members anymore.....Angelbear, do you know if they've left the group? Thanks....... |
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If you tell me who they are I can answer it for you. Members do come and go and some messages are old. I'd be glad to tell you for sure if you give me the names. |
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Terrie Shannon and LilBitBusy......I was going to email them and ask how things are going, and got a message that MSN couldn't find the member profile. LOL......I knew after I posted that you would ask me WHO....lol, a big DUH moment on my part. |
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Anytime you get the message that a members profile can't be found chances are they are no longer a member. Sometimes MSN acts up and all sorts of conflicts take place. Those members are no longer with us. Angelbear |
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