Welcome to the world of offices with women! This is such common stuff, really, my advice would be to put it in it's proper perspective. These are co-workers and obviously not friends, so be polite-ask them to be the same-do your work and go home and do your best to put it behind you. I really do sympathize with you...this was why I made a vow to stay out of office situations....cripes. Also, long ago when I had to work in offices, I always reminded my self that life is too short to be miserable going to work and if a situation is unresolvable, I would think about looking elsewhere for employment. Good luck with the situation...hopefully it's just a phase and you will get your footing in there and things will balance out and be peaceful if not friendly...

 

And hey! Welcome to the group...there are some really nice people here!

 

 

Hi Kindapristine...

 

I have worked for about 35 years... and sorry to say from my experience it seems to be true everywhere... and unfortunately the more women in the office, the truer it is... I know that is not good to hear but what's true is true... most women can be great buddies, great confidantes but some can also be jealous and catty and will stab you in the back just to look good themselves, it is usually something within themselves, low self esteem often breeds the need to look good at someone elses expense. Please don't get down on yourself or think that just going to work somewhere else is going to solve it but by the same token don't think that all women there are out to get you.

 

All you can do is do the best job you can, do it for yourself, don't worry what anyone else thinks, take great pride in accomplishing each task and doing it well. Many say you can find your own happiness in most any situation, kind of like psyching yourself up for accomplishing something and be positive, try to always be positive. There are always going to be people that try to make things difficult, just smile and tell them to have a great day and walk away. It is not worth your time or your sanity to dwell on why they do what they do.

 

I am so sorry you are having a rough time with your job believe me the best part of temping which is what I have been doing for over a year now... is that you don't have to get involved in office politics... you go in... you do your job and you go on  your way...

 

Best wishes and hopes that you are able to overcome all of the obstacles that are placed before you...

 

Babs...

 

 

Thanks for everyone who responded to my post.  Sorry that I deleted it, I began to worry that they could see my post......eek, that would NOT be good.

 

I understand what you all are saying because I would give the same advice and I know better, lol, its just being THERE in the middle of all of it, it shocks me that the front desk manager would be acting like such a child herself......that's one thing she should NOT be doing, gossiping about the employes, she should be trying to boost morale, not tear it down.  And......what are people thinking, that they can talk about you OUTLOUD, within earshot......its sad.

 

BUT, YES.......Angelbear, lol, I won't take their "crap" and right now, I HAVE to think about the paycheck....its hard to find a job out there right now.

 

Thanks everyone for your encouragement and support, I truly need it.

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