hi again oniero,

i think the victim saviour type senario often comes into play when i meet someone i like.i thought about this today,about how previous girlfriends have been insecure,but asked myself what was it that made me want to be with them and i thought that it could be because i attempt to help them ,or maybe change them? ,when i meet these women i often fall in love with them mainly cos i have some sort of concern for them,too much concern? but often alot of my concern is a lost cause as my confidence in my own abilities and inability to show affection kinda renders me useless lol. ive never seen myself falling for a girl who has alot of confidence,maybe cos ive associated certain confidence with arrogance in the past? and i typically think of arrogant women as being insensitive, i always think "that girl would probably laugh in my face if i were to talk about a sensitive subject with her" so maybe part of the reason i seek out the more insecure types is because i know they have a sympathy for myself and my problems?