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Well it is Sunday afternoon and I am sitting here eating a couple of m&m's and drinking coffee.For some reason, the past week has kinda been an emotional testing week. Maybe just all those hormones acting up and getting back on track. Also I am supposed to see a specialist in Vancouver in two weeks and all of a sudden I find out it is not the doctor that I wanted. I got a paper in the mail with a totally different doctor's name on it. I was really counting on seeing the one because she is super. I checked the ratings online and she has all good ones. This other doc, has only one good rating out of like 25 or something. Kinda is making me nervous. And then on Tuesday, my boss calls me up and tells me that I should come back to work soon because it didn't seem like I had a very big surgery, and I need a doctor's note if I take the next two weeks off. The original plan was that I didn't need to return until December 1. And plus, my stitches aren't even dissolved yet. I told him, sorry I cannot lift yet, and I am not ready to be teaching 5 year olds. He told me I knew what he wanted and it is my choice to live up to it. WHATEVER! I never did have a good relationship with him, and now it just got worse! I know I didn't have a super serious surgery but my belly still looks like a chunk of the rainbow, and I want it healed before I go back to work! SO THERE!!!!!

Anyhow, I also had an incident with a really good friend who has been so very helpful to me over the years. She never degraded me for my ailment. And I always thoght wow, she is a true friend. However, just before my surgery she told me that she didn't believe me that I was always in pain. I kind of got upset, and asked her why. She just said that it is impossible to always be in pain. I showed her that Endo survivor letter (off the main page here) and now she hasn't called or visited me since. She didn't even call when I was in hospital. I feel really awkward approaching her...what do I say/do? That has kinda caused a bit of the emotional turmoil as I felt like she always tried her best to help me out. In return I always helped her out as well, of course...it was never that I took advantage of her. She did have a baby lately that hit a wrong nerve in me, but I never said anything about it to her. I kinda broke down at her house and told her sorry and left. It was all good after that, except that she never took her baby anywhere near me. And that is not what I wanted either. I just have a moment like that once in a while and it just happened to be her having that baby and holding that baby that pulled at those sensitive heartstrings.

Owell, whatever!!! Just needed to let off a bit of steam.....think I should go enjoy a nice walk with the dogs and hubby.

Have a wonderful week ladies!

Oh Clara, bless you SO much.

Sounds like you've had a right rollercoaster of a week. Though I totally understand and know how it is.

When you have surgery...no matter how major or minor it may be on the outside, it's pretty major on the inside. They move your organs around to look etc and don't you go feeling bullied about going back to work. You should only go back when you feel ready and able. Gee's your boss sounds like a right tyke! GRRRR *shakes her fists at him*

Anyways, as for your friend.....maybe she's not contacted you because she feels awkward too? Maybe she feels bad about what she said and feels guilty and doesn't know how to approach you!? Maybe you should write her a letter explaining how you feel etc and get everything out in the letter?! That way your talking to her, but not, it might just be the icebreaker you need to kick start talking to each other again? Just an idea.

I hope it improves for you chickee.

With much love and grace

Hi Clara..sorry you are having such a rough go..who are you seeing in Vancouver..I'm assuming you were going to see Catherine Allaire? I saw her years ago and she was very good with me..but my niece just went to see her this summer and I gather she wasn't so good to her..so maybe it's a blessing? Give this guy a chance..you just never know...keep seeing him as a great doctor that helps you so much..

As for the jerk at work..just get a note from the doc and nicely place it in his had..nothing bothers a nasty person more than being sickly sweet...haha..kill them with kindness I always say..hehe... When dealing with people like this I devised this little saying.. you say "That's Niiiiiiice" and it really means F You..hehe..only I know what it means and the few friends and my sister who I let in on the joke..and it works so well they use it too...the only problem is sometimes you really mean that's nice and when you say it around those people they always say..what does that really mean..hehe

As for your friend..I was going to suggest that you show her the survivor letter..but you already did that..the only other thing I would suggest is maybe sit down and write her a letter on how you are feeling etc..might be that she feels uncomfortable as she doesn't want to upset you with the baby..and if she just had a baby could be she's just busy..maybe tell her in the letter to google endometriosis and she'll see that many many women live in daily pain when they have endo..it's hard as most people (thankfully-I mean by that thankfully not everyone is dealing with daily pain) just can't relate...

I'm glad you were able to vent with people that understand what you are going through..believe me I do understand..I had not only friends not believe me but many of my family didn't either..so hang in there girl..and know I'm thinking and praying for you..sending you many huggz..Angel

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