Heritics of Heroin

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My husband started using again. This time I didn't notice the sighns right away because he is exactly opposit of the way he was when he was strung out. We took our daughter and moved away from the town we lived in. My friends and family will not even speak to me for sticking by him after everything he has put us through. So now I am in a town where I dont know anyone or my way around. It used to be that he was sick and miserable until he was high. Now he is 10 times more beligerint and disrespectful than I have ever seen him. And he is acting like that only when he is high. Last night he nodded off in the kitchen and caused a grease fire. When I called the fire department he flipped out and told me he hopes I me and our daughter die, he said he hates me, he called me all kinds of names that he never called me before. I dont understand? I am the only one who stuck by him, I home detoxed him, I cleand his puke and shit for 3 days. I am now broke and alone stuck in the middle of nowhere with my daughter. Is this normal?

I'm not sure what sort of normal you're asking about, so I can't say.

For him to detox is normal......I think every junkie tries it at least twice. Is it normal for him to go back to it? The odds are definately against heroin addicts as far as getting and staying clean.

The life you and your daughter are living right now......that is NOT normal. There is nothing healthy about it. I know you tried to help him, you were there for him, you must love him. But you have to decide how much you're willing to put yourself through, before you say "Enough." And that your daughter is involved!! That fire could have killed her....if not then, sometime in the future, when he nodds off again, you may not be there to call the fire department in time.

My advice, and take it with all the salt you want, is to get away from him somehow. Kick him out if you can. Save enough money to leave. Take your beloved girl to a safe place. You said that your family will not speak to you. My family was like that once with me (probably not exactly the same), they wouldn't talk to me about any of it, because I had chose to stick it out in an abusive relationship. I did learn that when I actually got up and left and showed up on thier doorstep with no intentions of going back to him, they took me in. I guess they were always willing to help, but only on thier conditions. Not what I call unconditional love, but I took what I could get. Do you think your family would talk to you, once you've left him?

thinking of you, keep us posted,

I think you might benefit from some of the literature from Naranon or Alanon--these are support groups for family & friends of drug addicts & alcoholics--I might have the names wrong but just call your local AA or NA office & they'll direct yiou--You need help for your sake & your daughters as well as for him..Look after yourself & your child FIRST!!!--Good Luck & keep us posted.....

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