Hi. You are doing your part as a mom and don't for a moment feel bad about it. when my son was heavy into using again I told him it was detox or he had to leave home. It was the hardest thing I have ever done but he did go into the hospital the next day. I truly believe had I not given him that nudge he would not be alive today. You ar right in that too many kids lose their lives every year to these drugs. Be an advocate for yourself and your son and get him into help ASAP.  I knew my son 'hated me' at the time but he always knew that I love him. Good luck and keep posting. Lori

Hi,

I am the mom of a heroin addict....I would really suggest you look up to see if they have any NAR-ANON meetings in your area. This is a wonderful support group for familly and friends of addicts. You can be open about your feelings there and no one will judge you! Someone at the meeting has either or is going through what you are right now! We can't put ourselves in the addicts shoes...but we can help ourselves so we are in a position to help them. Please take the time to look up a meeting. I think you will find it beneficial. Just google "nar-anon" and then you can find a meeting close to you.

Hang in there,

MOMCODA

Hi Jack,

 

Thanks for your kind words.

 

As D said, you crossed the line this time.  I will tell him that a parents love has no boundaries.  It can't go both ways.  It's ok if you love me but only this much.......  I don't think so.

 

I received a call from D's social worker yesterday.  He apparently didn't get the stay of commitment revoked.  His defense attorney went to bat for D and argued he's a good- standing member of society.  IE he has a job.

 

He lied to the attorney and said he never was high on H at our house.  He copped to 2 relapses of Oxycontin.

 

So by now he's probably feeling good about himself.  His SS worker told me he's so articulate and sure at this time he's functional.  We all know it's a matter of time.

 

I realize that the treatment and the recovery (outpatient) are only part of the picture.  D apparently is not ready to admit.

 

With Christmas around the corner, if the usual pattern prevails, he will get high and hopefully won't become suicidal.  He has continued with the antidepressant they started him on last Spring.

 

If we get a call, I'm reaching out for help through the crisis line.  I am done.  I am spent.  I am sad.