Hi Sharon,

You and your children are in my prayers also.  Your situation is almost idenical to mine.  I lost my 19 yr. old son, his sister , Robin, was about Shannons age and I had another son, a couple yrs. older than Robin.

 

Both my kids took it so hard, as to be expected.  I was a mess and I didn't even send my kids to school for 2 weeks!  My daughters teacher finally came to visit us.  She brought with her this giant card that all the class mates made for my daughter.  They all wrote a small message and signed their names.  It helped my daughter SO MUCH to know that her friends were thinking of her and missing her and caring about her.

 

I used to take my kids to little things that dealt with grief issues.  Like for example we went to this one thing where they got to make a Christmas ordament for their brother.......they decorated it and wrote a little message on it for him and every Christmas we hang these ordaments in a special place on the Christmas tree.

 

There was a counsler at her school that helped her.  Any time she felt sad she could go to this counsler and talk. Make sure you talk to Shannons school about this.  Crying spells can happen so sudden at school and little kids get embarassed about it sometimes.

 

Most important I kept talking to my kids....letting them know that it's okay to be very sad and as the days go by it will get a tiny bit better and better until we could think about their brother without being so sad.  This was important for them to know it would get better.

 

We would remember happy/fun times we had and talk about those times every day, that seemed to help a little bit.

 

I truly pray that Shannon feels better soon.  Grief is so powerful.

 

You make sure you get help for yourself too Sharon.  The one important thing that made me keep going through all the sadness of my heart being broke was the fact that I had those two other kids!

luv,

sue