I don't go to church because I'm just burned out and because there are some weird things there regarding women and divorced women/ older single women are treated as kind of second class citizens that need to stay in the background.
Well, I am not a church going person, but for other reasons. BUT I do know that you can find other fellowships/church communities who will welcome you and your daughters to the table (so to speak) with welcoming arms and full citizenship. I encourage you to seek those out.
Now...on to the other stuff. Something I too have been giving a lot of thought to lately because of recent happenings in the world around me.
Part of me is falling for him and that's something I never even felt for my ex. it's the most wonderful thing I've ever felt.... Part of me thinks this is highly immoral and will bring only shame to myself and my children and everyone in his world will hate me, everyone in mine will be disgusted with me.
You are sooooo doing the right thing to cut ties with this lovely man, now. And it will hurt. Alot. You will likely feel a tremendous sense of loss, a feeling like part of your heart is gone. Everything you wrote in post 9 could have been written by me... reflecting my feelings as well on marriage and divorce. I too was being killed from the inside out. I too believed marriage at all cost. I too can no longer say divorce is the worst thing for a family.
However, the break up of a marriage should, in my opinion, involve the two parties only. Third parties have no business being involved... and it is 100% morally correct for you to step aside and insist he evaluate his own motives for his marriage and any relationship he may or may not be having with another woman.
I think, Holga, you already know what is right and true. You know the path to take
on this. As Karin said, listen to your heart. It is wise.
Thinking of you!
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