I am looking for items to list on the con side -

 1. I can't fully embrace what I've accomplished after teh divorce adn go after new goals if I'm thinking about his life.

2. I am too distracted and not taking care of my own life

3. I'm going to end up ashamed of myself.

4. My kids tell me I"m their role model. I don't want ot blow that.

5. My bosses asked me out to lunch and I said no because I didn't want to miss his call. I could have had fun.

 

Help me help me. I am so vulnerable because of so many years of neglect adn loneliness. I'm old, too, I'm 49, and I don't do bars or skimpy clothes or flirty behavior with strangers, because I'm always having to be a good mom. And I can't take risks because my kids need me. I know a lot of older women at work who never dated after divorce or gave up and now they are old and alone and I really don't want to do that. Help me know how to end this without having to work up a sweat and sound mean just to make myself do it.