from the "red flags" thread...
4. He would always make references to what his father said, always quoting his father, as if he had no ideas of his own or something. It also seemed whenever he referred to people they were more like objects to him then people, he would say so and so has a good moral compass and that is why I admire him and blah, blah, it sounded as if he were talking about a shoe or a car and it's qualities.
I remember always wondering at how often Robin quoted something I said, or how I felt about something....
.... was he "using" me in that way too? It makes sense... he didn't have the "correct" attitude/belief/insight etc on his own, and had to use mine... just like the person states above.
Another mystery solved.....