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From: MSN NicknameSmilingSuperSmile  (Original Message)Sent: 10/4/2005 10:42 PM
I am being nosey I know but I miss our chats I miss the posts.  I feel as if the family is drifting apart!!!!  So let's catch up with each other :)  You tell first then I will tell :)


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From: MSN NicknameEleanor611Sent: 10/5/2005 12:24 AM
Last week was good and bad news for me. I had a 
physiologist
 out sorry can't spell it. Anyway it was recommended by the stroke disability team, to get me to accept what i can do rather than what i can't. So saw him he felt there was no need for him being out and it was everyone else that needed councilling.lol thought he got that right.
 
Told him i should be allowed to go out on my own and i was willing to compromise like i would have my cell phone and i would inform family where i would be,and that it would be best for one of the family to collect me wherever i went. As if i get tired my balance is not good.He agreed with me he said i never took medical advise and i have done better than thought was possible,so i must have done something right.But he did point out it would still be againt medical advise.
 
So had meeting with my 3 sons. They where not happy of my descion to go out on my own and said they would not be pleased with my husband if i did this,they do get on but this leaves me in a dilema,i would not want my husband blamed for what i want to do,but i do want some kind of independence.My sons are not prepared to comprimise, and my husband is on there side so that don't help. i know i could manage if i'm sensible. sorry its so long

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From: MSN NicknameSmilingSuperSmileSent: 10/5/2005 2:35 AM
Please don't be sorry for this being long you are great :)
 
I understand what you are saying I am trying right now to accept what I can do and not try to push the limit too much or fast!  It is so hard getting it right.
 
What would you say to a compromise?  I know you said they wouldn't but hear me out :)  How about you go out, one of your sons or hubby goes out with you but a few feet away.  Do this for a week or two or however long it takes for you to feel comfortable.  Then expand the distance.  Do it slowly so they all have a turn and see how well you are doing.  Give them time to see how great you are doing.  How does that sound?
Give them the time they need not to be so scared they will lose you.  Let them see how much you can do.  How strong you are and always let them know you still need them.  I think they fear not only something horrible happening to you but also you not needing them as you do now.  Both of these take time to prove it wont happen :)
Did that help any?