Hello, I heard back from my daughter this morning before I left for work and as I expected, she was offended and angry at some things in my letter.
However.... I'm ok with that.
I understand where it's coming from... especially if she also is a narcissist.
Saw lots of things between us that we need to clear the air about... one of these days.
And also seems to be lots of misunderstandings about things.
For example:
She said it was her idea for me to come over for the 4th of July, and I needed
to get my facts straight etc.
She was sitting right there on the sofa that day when
her boyfriend said it was his idea!.
and she sat there glaring at him about it... which I reminded her of in my reply.
Another example:
When I got my apt. key back from her... she for some unknown reason took
it to mean I didn't want her around.... have no idea why she thought that.
I explained in the reply... (just as I told her when I got the key).... it was only because I wanted more privacy and did not want people to be able to get on my computer or read things I've been writing.. etc. That she was welcome anytime.
She's had a bad month, (either with work, or boyfriend??..don't know specifics yet)... I've had a bad month....so lots of unhappiness on both sides.
In time it will get worked out.
Coming out of the mental narcissism prison I was in... I don't expect them to fully
understand my situation and what I've been going through.
And if as I suspect, they should actually lean towards narcissism themselves... they never will understand, nor will they care, because naricissist do not care about other people, just themselves. And that pretty much describes my kids in a way. There self-centeredness seems to be more than immaturity to me. I hope I'm wrong... but kind of doubt it.
Haven't heard from my son yet, and probably won't. He'll just disappear into his own world and stay out of it.. that's what he does.
So.. if they are narcissistic... then I can totally forget ever getting any mental or emotional support from them, and I'm ok with that.
... I understand it, and will just get it elsewhere.
The main thing is I am wise to the ways of narcissists now,
and I know what to look out for so that I don't get sucked into living "only" for pleasing a narcissist.. even if it's my own kids.
Knowledge is Power... and I've got the power... It will just take a little time for me to get used to owning it and using it, after feeling so powerless
over my life for so long.
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