Double drat....
After so much progress yesterday, today I went backwards...
.
I'll blame it on the Full Moon coming this week.....
Ya'll will spank me for what I did..
. and it's ok.... I deserve it.
I gave into the mental temptation to say something sarcastic to his wife.
And I almost instanly e-mailed an apology to him... which he will
read tomorrow. We'll see what happens.
It just kept nagging at me all month long... that one year ago this
month is when he started seeing her and sleeping with her and ended things.
As I said.... I gave in to the temptations in my head... when I should have
been saying NO to them, and fighting against them.
And just a day after having the fleeting thought of wanting to be friends!
That is what irritates me the most. I almost cost myself the thing I really
want most.... friendship and peace in the family, at all cost.
I've already repented to God of course... and saw the lesson of how wounds
don't heal when we keep picking at them...
. As many times as I've heard that
refer to emotional wounds... this is the first time I really saw how we do it to ourself.
I followed it per text book.... pick, pick,... keep it bleeding...
So now.... I'm bandaging the rest of the wounds up and I am going to leave them
alone and I'm determined to let them heal and go away.
I was not expecting her to be at work... she usually doesn't work on Sundays..
but she was there... and stuff just kept eating at me.. whispering in my head...
and on my way to check out as I passed her at the florist stand I told her
"Just wanted to wish you happy anniversary". She looked puzzled and said..
uhhh... and for what?... "it was a year ago this month you and Robin got
together and my marriage ended"..... and turned to go check out...
As I walked away I said something else rather crude.
.. which I won't repeat here....
It's scary how easy it can be to be evil.... when we give in to it...
...
Over and over I've been failing the test given to me of 'fighting tempation' ... I hear the
tempting ideas in my head, and I find it so hard to stop and take time to
question or debate them.... I just let my emotions take over and decide for me.
I just kept feeling this driving force within... say it, say it, say it....
That's why I know I need to get back to church.... I'm drowning out here in this
unsaved world of people I am surrounded by.. and I need to get into the protection
of being with other Christians and to also get my head filled back up with right thinking etc.
We can only do so much on our own. For the big stuff...we need to be connected to
fellow believers and prayer partners to talk to and help us. And I need help... I'm
not doing good on my own at this point. Too easy to slip backwards... and I want to
keep going forward.
I cannot screw this up.... I cannot be the one to cost my daughter a peaceful relationship
between her parents at Ethan's expense etc... his activities and birthdays. I'll eat crow,
drink mudd... whatever it takes for that child to be able to be in a place with both
his memaw and papaw and not feel the verge of war breaking out. I just refuse!... so
maybe I better keep him in the forefront of all future temptations from now on! He's
my only strong weapon that will be able to get me to say no to myself!
Time for some wine tonight.
... not hot chocolate.