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I haven't been sleeping too well for the last month, because I have been having a dream - all I remember is one particular part of the dream, maybe that is all there is, but I keep getting the same mental picture flash into my head during the daytime too.

I kept seeing Hayden crying in distress, but as well as crying, he was doing his little party tricks of "brrrrrrrrrr" and blowing bubbles and raspberries - the things he does to amuse people and make them laugh, which then makes him laugh and makes him happy. But I kept getting this awful mental picture, and sometimes I would feel the intensity of his distress so much that it had me in tears.

There is no-one here I can talk to about these mental pictures I get, (not just about Hayden, and fortunately, not very often either) apart from Annette (everyone else would cross themselves and shout 'burn the witch' LOL). I could talk to Nancy about it of course if she was here - she would still shout Burn the Witch, but at least she would not be lighting up matches when she shouted it LOL.

Annette is......different. Some say she is a witch too, but she is just interested in wicca, like me. Her opinion was that I have a very strong bond with Hayden and at some point soon, I will see this picture but will know what to do.

Well, I saw it, and believe me, it is a weight off my mind!!

After the party last night, when we got back to Barbara and Jon's house, it was time to give Hayden his last feed of the night and put him to bed. Normally this consists of an 8oz bottle of milk apparently, and he falls asleep after it and is put to bed.

Last night though he was crying through his bottle, it seemed he could not drink the milk down properly, ......so he was hungry, and tired, and because he was snuffly with a cold, and unable to breathe properly, he was having difficulty in feeding.

Poor wee bairn was crying so hard, and kept making what sounded like his little "brrr" noises and his blowing raspberry noises, which he does to amuse people.

Barbara was getting stressed, so I said why not let me stand up with him and try to feed him his bottle, having him lying back to feed was making it difficult for him to breathe, and drink, even though she had put nose drops in for him and rubbed baby vic vapour rub onto his chest.

She asked what difference standing up would make as opposed to him sitting up and I said that I have no idea but I know that when I am bunged up with a cold, I find if I stand up and walk about, I can breathe a little easier.

And I just felt I had to cuddle him too. So I did that, stood up with him and walked around, but he was still refusing his bottle. So I suggested she break up one or two rusks and mash them down with milk from the bottle, and spoon feed him.

Well it took two of us, me to hold him up, (we stopped walking around), standing of course, and Barbara to spoon feed him, but we did it, he found it much easier to eat from his spoon. poor little mite.

Clearly I could not tell Barbara that I had been getting these intensely distressing thoughts and dreams about Hayden, why upset her too?

Well - that little baby crying last night trying to drink his milk but unable to breathe properly, was the very same "mental picture" I have been getting for about 3 or 4 weeks now, and when it was over and he had eaten his food and was smiling again, it felt like a weight was off my shoulders. THAT was what it was about.

Barbara said that she was so glad I was there because she was not sure she would have known what to do, and the standing up to feed him would not have occurred to her, nor the baby rusk....................I think it would have, but at least I was able to help her and Hayden.

I phoned her today to ask how things had gone and she said he went to bed and slept until about 6.30 this morning and today he is a happy little bunny.

Yes I can understand how you must have felt. I sometimes think I should see a head shrinker as believe it or not all my dreams are nightmares some of them I have woken up screaming out for Lance LOL.

Don't know what it's all about I'm sure.

Glad to hear the happy ending Joy but Wow.

Golly Joy...I know that the dreams must have been disturbing, but sooooo glad that the end result was a good one! I rarely remember dreams, so I don't know if I actually dream each night or not.

By the way...what is a rusk?

A rusk over here is what they give a baby to chew on when they are teething.

I am glad that it worked out alright, I can't begin to tell you of the horror I felt, wondering what it was about, I bet Barbara wondered why I phoned each day to "casually" ask how Hayden was. I am guessing I just have a strong bond with him. Mum had with Adam apparently.

Sadly - I rarely remember good dreams!!

A rusk is the same here Lesley, it is a sort of biscuit thing given to babies to teeth, but it also is a food and it says on the box that they can be broken up into milk and mushed up, to feed to a baby. Apparently they are his favourite food, it is so lovely to watch him eat those because he just sits there like a little bird with his mouth open, waiting for the next spoonful.

So happy the little bugger is OK.

So what other witchy things can you do?

" he just sits there like a little bird with his mouth open, waiting for the next spoonful" were you talkin' about Hayden or Johnboy? Ya knows that iz how good ol' JB eats all the time. Most of his meals are fine, he just has a little trouble with soup.

The reason why he has trouble eating his soup, Rob, is because he is trying to be "English" and attempts to eat it with his knife and fork............and unless one is born to such culinary skills, as one was, then eating soup with a knife and fork is troublesome.

Well shoot, I thought it was because he had his little head bent back.

Only when we use the funnel

I'm confoosed. You tawkin' bout Hayden or me?

Iffin it's Hayden, use a smaller funnel.

Thanks for the tip Bossman

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