I have you installed on my messenger, but I never see you signed in, so I would have to say no he can't see you.

 

If you have never accepted him as a contact, he is not a contact, even if you did have messenger installed.

 

If you ever did install it, you would probably get a message that asked if you wanted to add him as a contact.

If you were to see him as a contact on your messenger (if you had it) you can block him from seeing you online.

I have several blocked as seeing me online because I haven't got the concentration to talk to more than one at a time.

 

of course I very seldom have mine as showing online anyway, and I don't usually sign in through the messenger.

 

I usually go to the yahoo messenger to talk to my sister.

 

The next time you are on at the same time as me, I'll go to my email box, and see how you show in there, cause I got a little icon that shows all the contacts from msn messenger, next to thier addys.

 

remind me, OK?

 

Q

 

 

 

 

I have a windows messenger, and also a windows live messenger.

 

on both messengers, you click on your own name and it will give you the option of showing , or appearing offline. click that. and before you sign in, it should give you the option of appearing offline before you hit the sign in button. That's if you use that to go on to get your emails.

I hope I haven't confused you, hang on and I'll sign off mine to see if there is the option for sure, on windows messenger.

(there is on windows live messenger).

 

when you are in to the messenger click tools on the messenger

click options

click privacy

put anyone you don't want to see you online, in the blocked section

 

and click the box next to alert me when other people add me to thier contact list, that way you'll know who adds you.

 

I didn't see any options to sign in as not visible though, but there is an option you can click, where it can't stay running in the background.

 

remember there are two different windows messengers

I thought there were, but i wasn't sure.

 

when you sign off of it, it should show you as offline, but when you sign back on, it might start back up again. I think that's the running in the background thingy.

 

 

 

 

I don't see you as online right now, but i'll leave mine as online while i'm looking around the groups.

maybe you'll see me, maybe not.

 

I should be online for a few minutes at least

 

well, i don't see that option anywhere

I put mine to online now, do you see me? if you don't maybe you don't have me as one of your contacts.

that's probably why he can see you,  he has you as one of his and he sees you.

and you can't see him.

 

maybe i'm not writing this right.....

he has you as a contact, but you don't have him as one.

ye sees you, you don't see him

i have you as a contact and him too

but i don't see you online

nor anybody else

 

i don't see you in the windows live messenger either.

I'm not in the windows messenger though but it should show in both i think.

 

I'm going offline now, i think spirtiangel wants to use the phone line.

see ya tomorrow

Q

thanks Q

see you

M

i'm on now with my "secret" addy

 

I don't have that one listed as a messenger contact so I don't see you

 

 

I'm sorry, yes i have it as an email contact, but not listed on my messenger. I thought that's what you were saying, that you were on messenger with that addy.

Q

isn't that the same

i thought my contacts on hotmail were also on messenger

at least that's what i remember from when i used it

but that's long time ago

anyhow problem is solved already: he cannot see me

funny how you can get paranoid from something coincidental like this

also received an email today from someone else i haven;'t heard from in many years

i suspect it has been sent by a virus or worm though, the mail was very strange, and sent to multiple addresses

ph well, it's my bedtime, have to work tomrrow, but just got home form choirc and thought i'd checkl mymail

oops, keep typing next to the letters i want on this laoptop

sorry

nite nute frin ne biw

u neab

i mean

nite nite from me now ;-))