We can't help who we fall in love with. And unfortunitly there are more ppl in this world that will do anything to get what they want. No matter how much they hurt other ppl. Please remember that you are very special LostAngel and you deserve so much better. You are very strong and with God and your friends, you will get thru this.
From what you have said, he has already told you that he is not leaving his wife(all the reasons and excuses say it all). He will tell you anything, he thinks you want to hear to keep you around.
We all want to be in love and feel loved but there are times when we need and should put ourselves first. A good friend of mine has a favorit saying : I can make my own self miserable, I don't need you for that! I feel that saying is very true. We want to meet some one to be happy and have fun, not some one who is going to make us miserable just b/c they can or they are feeling that way. It is not fair for some one to ask 100% from some one if they can not give 100% back.
In Feb I will be married for 11 yrs. I have been seperated for the past 3 1/2 yrs, but I finally put a stop to everything about 6 mo. ago. It is a daily struggle for me, b/c I am scared to death of spending the rest of my life alone. Even tho I am scared, I am happier, maybe relieved is a better word to use. I know that doesn't make any sense but that is how I feel. I don't have to deal with..........well there is alot that I don't have to deal with anymore.
Hun, just remember that we are here for you and will try to help the best that we can......you are never alone. Hugs~T