Thank you all so much.  Her son decided that the funeral was too much for him so he cremated her. That makes me shiver to think about it. We did go down for the viewing but then drove right back home. I did not feel like going to any of his parties.  I don't know if any of you have ever read "the cremation of Sam MaGee". That was a favorite of my oldest brother. He would go around the house quoting it, and parts of it are in my memory. Had I gone to their wake I would have read this over her cold frozen body and so I did not go. A friend of hers joined us at the funeral home and as we sat there looking at her and talking of her since of humor. She was lying with her arms outstretched( they do nothing to shape her into a comfortable looking position. I said "Edie wouldn't it be grand if when they get here and are all standing around pretending to greive if she would just levitate off the table just a couple of feet up and then slowly go back down. We all laughed ."A final word from her"