I LOVE this reminder!  It's important for this message to sink into our brains!  Oh how we need to hear this message over and over again, before we really believe this?  (For some of us anyway!)  But, recognizing that the below is message is true,  I have to ask myself, "Mary, what's stopping you from asking now?"   

Please read on.....Mary  

Rejection Is A Myth

One of the biggest fears people have is rejection. This seems strange to me because in my mind there is no such thing as rejection. If you don't have something and you ask for it and you don't get it, you haven't lost anything or been harmed in any way. Your life didn't change,  in any way. So, rejection isn't real. It is just an imaginary form of fear that keeps you from taking chances.

According to Jack Canfield, "I have come to realize that the whole concept of rejection is false -- that rejection doesn't really exist. Think about it for a moment. If you asked someone to join you for dinner, and they said no, you could tell yourself that you had been rejected. But think about it. Did you have anyone to eat dinner with before you asked them? No! Did you have anyone to eat dinner with after you asked them? No! Did your life really get worse? No. It stayed the same!"

My friend Maria has a crush on a guy she knows casually. She would love to go out with him, but doesn't want to ask him for fear he will say no. I coached her into asking him out for "drinks." It took all she could muster to text message an invitation to him. I wish I could tell you that he sent her a message right back and said, "Oh would love to." But, he didn't. In fact, she never heard from him. The good news is Maria found the asking to be very empowering. She also realized that nothing bad happened for asking. Maria is now more excited than ever to ask for what she wants since she realizes she has nothing to lose.

Coaching

Rejection is nothing but your fear getting in the way. When you go after what you want you have nothing to lose because you don't have it to begin with. You stand only to gain from taking the risk.

Coaching Question

Is the fear of rejection holding you back?(from calling a potential host or recruit?)  

Daily Action

Today, move past your fear of rejection and go for whatever it is you want. You have nothing to lose because you don't have it now! The worst that can happen is your life won't change a bit. DUH!  isn't this so true???  yet, we fear someone will say NO....so we just don't ask!  Let's analyze this logic!  Are YOU holding yourself back from really realizing your dreams, or in the case of Pampered Chef, a better paycheck, more shows, sharing this opportunity?  Think about this....seriously!  Let's NOT stop ourselves from helping ourselves and others' by NOT asking! 

Quotes

"I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat." Sylvester Stallone

"When you make a mistake or get ridiculed or rejected, look at mistakes as learning experiences, and ridicule as ignorance. Look at rejection as part of one performance, not as a turn down of the performer." Denis Waitley

"A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success." Bo Bennett