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I have to get this out. My daughter Diane has been married 14 years this month, and her always good husband has just been caught cheating on her. Steavan works as a guard at the maximun security prison here, and apparently he has been seeing one of the female guards. We have just recently learned she is under investigation for having relations with an inmate, but Diane thinks it was the realtionship with her husband that they are curious about.Anyway, I am having to watch my child go thru the very thing that I did with her dad, and it makes me soooo MAD. THe kids, 4 boys, are just now starting to know that daddy is not coming home again, and it is so hard to see the pain for them all. I just want to take him and shake him and that bitch that he took up with. To beat it all, he wants paternity tests to see if the boys are all his. That really takes the cake. I just think that the bitch has put him up to that to maybe try and get him out of paying child support. Diane said fine, just don't let the boys find out what he is doing. Anyone can see that those boys are his, they are just like him, and Diane KNOWS she wasn't with anyone else, but As I told her, he is just looking for anything to use as an excuse for his wrongdoing. I would never have thought that Steavan would have done anything like this, and it makes me so mad to see my daughter and g-sons destroyed. Well, I got some of this out, so maybe I can feel better now. I am gonna go pray and ask God for guidance for us all, since I sure don't know how to make the hurt stop for them.

I am so very sorry that your daughter and grand children have to go through this terrible time. I too went through the same thing as did you and we know how very difficult it can be.

Having your love and support during this difficult time will help your daughter more than you can ever know. It is sad that her husband is putting her and the children through the dna tests.....this shows what he is truly like deep down inside. People do not change over night and he can't be led to do this unless he wants to....the decision to cheat was his and questioning his children's paternity is his. The female guard is not blameless in this either, she knew he was married, but as we know it takes two to tango.

I just pray that he will step up like a man and support his sons, both emotionally and financialy. Please let her know that we will pray for her and her boys that they make it through this difficult time. She is lucky that she has you and God in her corner.

Take care & hugs,

Thank you Carol for caring and understanding what we are all feeling right now. I gave Diane money tonight to retain a lawyer. She has an appt. tomorrow, and we will see what happens. I was in another state without any family when her dad cheated on me, but I am gonna try and help her out and make sure she gets what she and the boys deserve. Steavan just doesn't know what a bitch of a mother-in-law he has yet, but he will soon find out. Again, thank you for the prayers and good thoughts.

I have been in Dianes shoes and it hurts. But she is better off without a no good cheater! I cant STAND a man who cheats on his wife and puts his family thru pure hell just for a roll in the sack! WHAT AN ASS he is! and it's good she is divorcing him too.. at least this way her boys wont grow up with HIM influencing their grown up ways and maybe they wont cheat on their wives thinking its all fine and dandy! God bless you Nancy for helping her out! She's going to need it. and I hope someday she'll find a GOOD man that she deserves as well as good to her boys and treats her with the RESPECT and CONSIDERATION she and the boys deserve!

Thanks Suz for your kind thoughts. Now Steavan is telling Diane that he loves this slutty person, and she is getting a hard shell to combat the pain, and to do what she has to do. I am taking out a loan for her to get a good laywer. The appt is on Tuesday. Thanks again. Steavan was always the model of a perfect husband and father, so that makes it even worse for us all. It is like he snapped and went totally the other way. I can't understand it and neither can anyone else that has know them. Hugs, Nancy

I am really late in reading this but hope that things are getting done there Nancy. I think I went through most everything in a marriage except the knowledge of adultry. I had suspicions and that is difficult to take, thinking of you and your daughter. Peggy

I think he will realize what he did when it is to late, and when he realizes that the "lady" he took up with and it sounds like is influencing him, ruined his beautifull family. It might take a couple of years, and I hope it will be very hard years for him. I will pray for your family. Your daughter is so lucky to have a mom like you standing by her, I hope she realises that. I used to be a prison guard, and I know what goes on behind closed doors. The boys will need allot of love to get through this right now, and I know they will get it from both of you.

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