Self Nurturance:

Those who were not touched enough or held enough by their mothers as babies have been proven to not know how to nurture themselves. Any adult who cannot will collapse in the face of challenge because they do not feel self-empowered via self-nurturing.

I was one of those kids...no judgement of Mom, people do the best they can with what they have and since Mom was raised in an orphanage, she was never taught how to be nurturing for her children let alone herself.

Well I made a little self-discovery that I hope can help others who were not touched enough as children by their moms leaving them ill-prepared for a lifetime of interaction with others and our own inner community.

Most people eat spicey foods with their fingers. Ribs, buffalo wings, etc...all eaten with the fingers by most of us anyway. It's why it is food that is called 'finger lickin good' and 'finger food'.

Eating food with our fingers is a form of self-nurturing! It is as close as us adults can get to that nurturing feeling of being held up while suckling mother's milk, to form a concept, ahem...after all, all children or most, do suck their thumbs, now why do you think that is? What do you think that is about?

Self nurturing!

Self nurturing IS self-empowerment!

Try eating your next home meal with your fingers, finger food or not, ok not the soup, but all the rest, lol...focus entirely on your fingers being the thing that is feeding you, much like a beak...even if they are your own fingers and not your mothers. Ever have Grandma feed you with her fingers when you were sick? That's why!!! She was nurturing you, she was saying, "I care about you and want you to feel my love! We all need that to be healthy as adults and if we miss out on it, then we end up having problems.

I do think that dysfunction IS mostly about not being able, not knowing how to self nurture. Yet who does not walk away feeling satisfied from a good old chicken leg dinner or a sandwich or any finger food? Show me that person and I will show you someone who is suffering badly from self esteem issues born mostly of being incapable to self-nurture. Ok admittedly, not all dysfunctions are born of the inability to self-nurture, they are born however of fear and those who can self-nurture, fear-less!

Feeling low? Go out and grab yourself a KFC or good home cooked chicken or rib dinner and really focus on nurturing yourself with finger food. Don't touch anything on your plate with a utensil, fingers only, come on, nurture yourself! I am not trying to talk anyone into a food/eating disorder, believe me, eat with your fingers and you will fill up faster!!! Because you satisfy that need to be nurtured faster by eating with your fingers.

I hope you will let us know how it went for you and how nurtured you felt after a finger-food meal.  There is a difference between feeling 'meal' satisfied and nurtured after a meal.  I hope you are able to experience that difference.