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General : Won't life no longer be fun without smoking?  
 Message 1 of 3 in Discussion 
From: Joel  (Original Message)Sent: 12/12/2005 1:42 AM

Dear Joel,

I am 35 years old, smoking 18 years. I have never quit smoking before now. So far, so good, I just got off the patch two days ago and I am using the wellbutrin now which I think will help me with anxiety. I think that is probably the reason I started smoking in the first place. I would like to know is it normal for me to feel like my life is not going to be fun anymore? Why do you think cold turkey is the only way to quit? It seems to me that cold turkey is next to mental suicide. Cruelty would describe cold turkey to me. I felt like I needed the patches initially to help me not go completely crazy. I love your website and it has been very inspirational to me the last few weeks. Tomorrow will be two weeks. I am determine‚Ä?Please write back.


Here Carmi:

Each of the following links will address different issues you have raised. It is a lot of materials but you actually asked quite a few questions and raised quit a few concerns. I hope they help you to see that quitting cold turkey is likely to be the least painful way to quit--not to mention the most successful. More importantly, many of these articles will hopefully help you to see that there is life after quitting. It will likely be a happier, cleaner, healthier, simpler, and richer life that you will be able to keep longer by sticking to a new personal commitment to never take another puff.

"Why did I ever start smoking?"
I have to smoke because of all my stress (Make sure to read post 148 and 159 in that string)
"Quitting Smoking": A Fate Worse than Death?
Is cold turkey the only way to quit?
So how did most successful ex-smokers actually quit?
Quitting by gradual withdrawal
Quit Cold Turkey
Hooked on the Cure 
General Comments About the Use of Zyban
"Will I always get the craving?" 
NRT and Quit Meters
 A Journey Beyond Comfort
I Am Still Me, Just Better!
Call Me A Quitter
Probably the most important articles considering you seem to be working with the impression life is more fun as a smoker:
The Isolation of a Widowed Smoker
He Wanted You to Know.
Noni Glykos - age 33
Kim's missing lung - age 44
I smoke because I like the flavor
I Smoke Because I Like Smoking!

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 Message 2 of 3 in Discussion 
From: RogerSent: 12/12/2005 4:00 AM
Life will be what you decide it is going to be after nicotine cessation.  I have been quit for almost four years after actively feeding my addiction for more years than your current age.  I do wish I could for just one day allow people in the process of trying to control their addiciton to nicotine to first hand see how much better my life really is without using cigarettes to deliver my druig of choice.  I wish I had a DVD that documented my progress, challenges, victories and realizations how much better off I am today than I was just under four years ago.  I don't have those wishes to let you look at.  What I do have is just my testimony of how it is.  I can honestly say without any hesitation I would never even consider going back to actively feeeding my addcition.  There is nothing I miss that isn't so much better today than it was prior to 31 December 2001.  All the activities I do today are done in comfort without using nicotine.  You see Cami, it wasn't smoking that made things fun.  The bottom line is we tricked our addcited mind into believing everything was fun while we smoked.  In reality, the only reason we smoked is because we needed on a regular basis (every 20-30 minutes) to replenish our blood serum with nicotine to keep us out of constant withdrawal. 
Keep in mind any discomfort you are feeling or perhaps will feel is not at all what it is like to be a comfortable x-smoker.  The symptoms of withdrawal, both physiological and psychological are temporary.  They go away.  I won't lie to you and say they go away instantly,  it does take a period of adjustment. 
I can however make you a promise.  If you continue one day at a time, there will come a day not so far in your future you will look back and realize any discomfort you may or may not have felt does not over shadow the comfort that will start to surround you as long as you allow the healing to continue.  By that I mean, each day make the commitment to go one more day without nicotine. 
If you haven't already done so go to the following link  Freedom from Tobacco  and read how it is for the members there.  Continue to educate yourself regarding your addcition to nicotine.   Freedom as well as  WhyQuit  has the information you'll need for that.
Joel has covered your other questions in depth.  I just wanted to try to help you realize there is life after nicotine.
Believe in yourself.  You can if you think you can.

 Message 3 of 3 in Discussion 
From: MSN NicknameJoeJFree-Gold-Sent: 12/12/2005 12:42 PM
I hope you are still reading about becoming free of nicotine and thus smoking.
I'd only like to add a link or two that may provide the turning point in your thinking about your 'habit'.
Did you really start smoking to deal with anxiety?
Take some time to explore a little about why started smoking and why you continued for 18 years. 
and as Roger said -
You can if YOU think you can.
My name is JoeJFree always a nicotine addict and gratefully now an X-smoker for 11 months, 1 day, 21 hours, 20 minutes and 9 seconds (335 days)
I've now reclaimed 29 Days and 3 Hours to live how I choose!  NTAP!