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Hello Lisa,
I can't say that I can relate to your situation. No one tried to sabotage my decision to quit nicotine. I have heard others express the same concerns about friends, lovers and spouses and I understand the tremendous hurt that you must feel. You are dealing with the inner turmoil of nicotine recovery and would rather your friends were supportive instead of antagonistic. I did however live with a smoking spouse for 1.5 years until she finally quit smoking 2 months ago. I wish she would have quit sooner but I know that I was an influence even if it did take 17 months. You are the maverick amongst your friends and it is very likely that eventually, one of them will follow you too.
You made an important point in your message, "they're also addicts and thinking with an addicts mind." The only difference between you and them is that you have made the choice never to suffer withdrawl again. Once you have made up your mind Lisa, it does not matter what happens around you, you remain secure in your decision and resolute. Don't fall into the trap of blaming your circumstances. You have already quit. 12 days have passed. You are not trying to quit or to remain nicotine free. You have quit. You are nicotine free.
What you friends do may test your resolve and even make you angry but you are of free will. You can choose to be with them or not. You can choose to smoke or not. I am not going to attempt to give you advice on how to handle your personal relationships but I will tell you this about your addiction, it is priority one. Just think about all of the time you spent preventing withdrawl, by smoking. If you devote even half of that time to learning about your addiction, there will be no circumstance that arises that you will not be able to deal with because knowledge of your addiction is the key to your recovery.
Read as much as is practical for you.
Joseph
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