Child Loss -- Greiving with the family

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I love those tags that you put on some of your posts...the big tags...where do you get them...do you make them yourself!

Yes Maria....I would like to know as well. They are very beautiful, and I love the sayings.

Thank you ladies! I wish I knew how to make them, they're so lovely. I found them online as I was searching for tags to add on my posts for the group but I did not save the address where I got them from... silly me! I've got quite a few of them, if you'd like to have them I can email you the file, just let me know to what email address I should send it to.

Have a lovely day, sending you all big hugs

I would love to have them to use on some of my groups.

You can send them to me at; [email protected]

Thank you so much...Rean

Thanks Maria.....I will grab them from that site as well. Hope the baby is doing well. She must be getting pretty big now?

Rean, I've emailed the file, please let me know if you got it ok

Shannon, yes, baby Nina is growing up very fast. Here's a photo of her but don't be misled by the smile, she's really REALLY hard work!

I struggle a little because she looks so much like Enrique, it's incredible. Obviously I know she's her own little person but it can be hard... there are days that I have a lump in my throat all day long. Don't get me wrong, I do look at the positive side of it, I've got a piece of my son in her, but its just handling the emotions can be quite difficult.

If you don't mind I'd like to share a conversation I had with my dad last night. My dad and brothers have not yet met Nina, we were hoping to come to Los Angeles over the Christmas period but with this credit crunch we simply cannot afford it. Anyway, my dad had a dream about Nina a couple of nights ago. He was in the back garden of his house when all of a sudden she was sitting next to him and said: Hello Grandpa! he was taken aback as she's only 6 months old but was talking like you and me would! He asked her what was she doing there and she said: Im here because you were all very sad after Enrique left; my dad said to her it was a shame she didn't get to meet him and asked her if she knew why he'd left and she replied: He had to go Grandpa. My mummy and daddy were chosen to be his parents because he needed a lot of love... you all loved him so much but it was his time to go. I want you to know Grandpa that I love you very much and soon we will all live together. The dream ended there. I was speechless. My dad said he felt such comfort as he woke up... he said to me that his questions about my son's death were answered and was very happy that Nina came to him to deliver such a special message. Usually my mum is the one who dreams some incredible stuff, she's had premonitions throughout her entire life so I've never have doubt it her but my dad is a man of science (like me) and to hear him say he believes his dream wasn't just a dream but something very special is just unbelieveable. My husband Mark was a bit dissmisive and said tha it was just a dream but if it made my dad happy then that was all that matter... I'd like to believe but Im so hurt and in so much pain... I don't want to have high expectations about something that may turn out to be just wishful thinking. I miss my son desperately... why wasn't me who had such a beautiful dream?? After all I'm his mother and its me who needs a sign from him more than anyone else...

I'd like to know if any of you or a close one has experienced something similar and if you believe in the content of such dreams or not.

I had to get this off my chest as its been on my mind all day and can't concentrate on little else.

Thank you for listening!

Sending big hugs to you all,

Maria..First of all I have to tell you that is sure a beautiful baby girl you have there. I love her smile and her sparkling eyes...I know you must be very proud of her.

As for the dream, I really don't know what to think. I would love to have a nice dream about my Bobby, but, I don't. I don't know if they mean anything or not. But, if it made your dad feel better, then I am glad he had the dream. I wish you could have a nice dream that would help you to feel better.

Thank you for sharing that beautiful baby.

Maria....your little Nina is absolutely adorable. Her eyes and her smile are so heartwarming, and she does look like you little Enrique. I think she's got both his eyes and smile because it seems like I've seen them before.

As far as your Dad's dream goes, I'll say the same as Rean....if it made him happy I'm glad he had the dream as well. It could be that he was thinking about little Nina and wishes he could see her to. Who knows for sure? I am glad you talked about it though so you could get it off your chest. I know the feeling, and I hate it. That's the thing about coming here....nothing surprises us anymore because we all seem to go through the same thing. I had a dream something like that about Andy once, and he told me not to cry for him anymore because he was alright and that it was just his time to go. He told me not to blame myself for anything because I did nothing to blame myself for. He then told me he loved me and he would be waiting for me when it was my turn to go. He said not to worry about him because he was in an awesome place and then he just faded away. As you can imagine I woke up crying, and all I could think about was that dream. By the end of the day I really felt at peace with myself, and I chose not to decifer my dream. As far as I was concerned Andy came to me in dream form to let me know he was alright. Was it a dream, or was it wishful thinking? I don't know! But, even though I was crying when I woke I felt happy that I had this so called dream, and had spoken to Andy. In my heart I heard myself telling him that I loved him and would love him forever, and I heard him tell me that he loved me back. I've never had any other dreams of Andy since then, but I know that one was bittersweet and I think I will always remember it.

So take care of yourself and your little ones Maria......and come and talk about anything you want, anytime you want, because I enjoy talking with you.

Have a wonderful weekend!

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