I agree that seasonal depression is a very real thing.........but, like you, I believe that people shouldn't be diagnosed with it shortly after losing a child. I think that anyone who has lost a child.....and becomes sad, depressed and withdrawn......is going through natural feelings. It's a good thing......a hard thing......but a normal thing. I always get a little concerned when people get taken to a doctor immediately after a death and get put on anti-depressants. Then they tend to stay on them.......for lengthy periods......and when they go off of them......then they need to deal with their grief that was left unresolved. It's a hard place to be in. I think natural grief should be allowed to take its course. After some time has passed and it is still intense but much of the grief has been lived......then maybe get put on something........but not right away.
And, like you Rean, just a few days after Rachel died.....I woke up in intense pain. For almost 8 months I was in horrible pain. I couldn't walk somedays..........I would wish I could just die it was so bad..........When it resolved 8 months later........I think it was due to a lot of things. The doctors take credit......but, I think I reached a point in my grief journey that I knew I needed to move forward with my life as Rachel would have wanted. It was hard......but Sina needed me and my mom needed me........I knew that as much as I didn't feel like it, I needed to do it. I reached a point......and my pain started slowly going away. I do believe that grief, depression and physical health are closely linked.......much more than we sometimes realize.
I guess.....everything is linked together.....................that's life!
God's peace......(HUGS).......Cindy