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From: MomOf4  (Original Message)Sent: 4/13/2005 6:07 PM
A certain good woman one day said something that hurt her
best friend of many years. She regretted it immediately and
would have done anything to have taken the words back. But
they were said impulsively in a moment of thoughtlessness,
and as close as she and her friend were, she didn't consider
the effects of her words before hand.
What she said hurt the friend so much that this good woman
was herself hurt for the pain she caused. In her effort to
undo what she had done, she went to an older, wiser woman
in the village, explained her situation, and asked for
advice.
The older woman listened patiently in an effort to determine
just how sincere the younger woman was, how far she was
willing to go to correct the situation. She explained that
sometimes, in order to put things back in order, great
efforts must be made.
She then asked, "Just what would you be willing to do to
repair the harm done?" The answer was heartfelt: "Anything!"
Listening to her, the older woman sensed the younger woman's
distress and knew she must help her. She also knew she could
never alleviate her pain by living her life for her, but she
could teach, if the younger woman would first listen, then
learn.
She knew the outcome would depend solely on the character of
the younger woman. She said, "There are two things you need
to do to make amends. The first of the two is extremely
difficult. Tonight, take your best feather pillows and open
a small hole in each one. Then, before the sun rises, you
must put a single feather on the doorstep of each house in
town. When you are through, come back to me. If you've done
the first thing completely, I'll tell you the second."
The young woman hurried home to prepare for her chore, even
though the pillows were very dear to her and very expensive.
All night long, she labored alone in the cold. She went from
doorstep to doorstep, taking care not to overlook a single
house. Her fingers were frozen, the wind was so sharp it
caused her eyes to water, but she ran on through the darkened
streets, thankful there was something she could do to put
things back the way they once were.
Finally as the sky was getting light, she placed the last
feather on the steps of the last house. Just as the sun rose,
she returned to the older woman. She was exhausted but
relieved that her efforts would be rewarded.
"My pillows are empty. I placed a feather on the doorstep of
each home."
"Now," said the wise woman, "Go back and refill your pillows.
Then everything will be as it was before."
The young woman was stunned. "You know that's impossible!
The wind blew away each feather as fast as I placed them on
the doorsteps! You didn't say I had to get them back! If this
is the second requirement, then things will never be the same."
"That's true," said the older woman. "Never forget. Each of
your words is like a feather in the wind. Once spoken, no
amount of effort, regardless how heartfelt or sincere, can
ever return them to your mouth. Choose your words well and
guard them most of all in the presence of those you love."
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