Dianna,

 

Like everyone is saying, take it a little at a time.  Don't let anybody push.  Amelia's room is still as it was; we removed all the things to remind us of her last days.  Everything else is as is.  We just took the swing out of the living room.  We just gave away her toy box.  It's been 7 months.

 

Find "The Afterloss Credo" (Rean, a little help here, please! :) ) .  Read it yourself; if you feel comfortable, print it and put it in a place where people can see and read.

 

If I heard you right, you're married.  Just remember, even tho' you were her mom and your grief is different, there is one who understands your pain: your husband.  Hug, talk, hold each other whenever you two possibly can.  Spend a little time together each day.  Parents who have lost children can understand the pain of losing a child; only you two know what it's like to lose Tina.   

 

I don't know where your husband is at in his grief but remember, he could be silent.  That doesn't mean he isn't feeling it; he is.  Just like you, he needs time. 

 

Time in grief is never defined by a clock or a calendar; it's defined by the heart. 

 

Many hugs and prayers for peace,

Joe