The Character of Love

Love Is Long-suffering

The word makrothumei literally hints of taking a long time to get hot! In the New Testament, it has to do with how one should respond to abuse. Love patiently waits and attempts to win over one’s adversary.

William Barclay tells the enlightening story of how Edwin Stanton was the bitter opponent of Abraham Lincoln in the early days of their political careers. Stanton characterized the awkward-looking Lincoln as a clown, a gorilla, etc. When Lincoln became president, however, he appointed Stanton as his secretary of war, because he felt that he was the best man for the job. Later, when President Lincoln lay dead from Booth’s bullet, at the bedside Stanton tearfully said: “There lies the greatest ruler of men the world has ever seen.�?Patience had conquered (Letters to the Corinthians, p. 133).

Love Is Kind

A wise man declared: “That which makes a man to be desired is his kindness�?(Prov. 19:22). Kindness includes attributes like friendliness, compassion, generosity, and tenderness. To be kind is to be God-like (Luke 6:35).

In a world that is saturated with harshness, a kind disposition is a refreshing breeze. There is many a woman who would trade a handsome husband for a kind one. Kindness would stifle the plague of child abuse. More kindness among brothers in the Lord would alleviate so much church trouble. The Scriptures demand that we be kind to one another (Eph. 4:32).

Love Is Not Jealous

The consuming flames of jealousy are as cruel as hell (Song of Solomon 8:6). What is jealousy? Jealousy is a feeling of displeasure caused by the prosperity of another, coupled with a desire to wrest the advantage from the person who is the object of one’s envy. The loving person will rejoice at the success of others. Jealousy has destroyed many a home and church.

Love Vaunts Not Itself

“Let another man praise you, and not your own mouth�?(Prov. 27:2). Is there anyone more of a bore than a braggart? Genuine love is selfless. It seeks to extol the virtues of others. Love has words of encouragement for the lonely, the down-trodden, and others who deserve and need uplifting. But some are ever tooting their own horns. When a windbag preacher boasts that were it not for his efforts the whole brotherhood of Christ would be immersed in apostasy, one cannot but be reminded of this descriptive.

Love Is Not Puffed Up

The original language here denotes one who is inflated with a sense of personal pride. Pride is unreasonable self-esteem, generally accompanied by insolence and rude treatment of others. It deceives the heart (Jer. 49:16), hardens the mind (Dan. 5:20), and results in destruction (Prov. 16:18). Love is characterized by genuine humility.

Love Does Not Behave Itself Unseemly

The Greek expression here literally suggests the notion of being “without form.�?It encompasses all sorts of evil activity, bad manners, and brutal rudeness. Love doesn’t deliberately seek to be offensive.

Have you known anyone who took pride in his ability to bludgeon others? The Christian’s vocabulary should be characterized by such expressions as, “No, you first,�?“please,�?“thank you,�?“how may I help you?�?etc. Love operates with determined politeness. The terms “gentleman�?and “lady�?should reach their zenith in the context of Christianity.

Love Seeks Not Its Own

The meaning is, love does not pursue its own interests. Love is not selfish. It has been said that there are two kinds of people �?those who are always thinking of their rights, and those who concentrate on their responsibilities. Ours is an age of woeful selfishness.

Everyone is protective of their own rights �?let others fend for themselves. After all, it’s a jungle out there �?a dog-eat-dog world. Whence came the origin of this fang-and-claw philosophy?

By way of contrast, consider the sacrificial example of the Son of God (Phil. 2:5-8). Love thinks of others and seeks to serve.

Love Is Not Quickly Provoked

Love does not have a short fuse; it does not stroll about with a chip on its shoulder. Some folks are cocked, just ready to explode. Their day is ruined if someone does not provide the opportunity for them to give a piece of their mind. Genuine love does everything possible to avoid combat. If conflict for truth has to come, so be it; but one should not live in the objective case and kickative mood!

Love Takes Not Account of Evil

This descriptive does not mean that love ignores evil. That view would contradict numerous other passages of scripture. There are times when evil must be exposed, rebuked, and disciplined. The Greek word for “account�?is from logizomai, a commercial expression which suggests writing a transaction in the record so as not to forget it. Love does not keep score, as in, “Three times this month he has neglected to speak to me.�?The one who says, “I must forgive you, but I will never forget what you did,�?has miserably failed the test of agape. Love does not harbor bitterness nor does it plot revenge.

Love Does Not Rejoice in Unrighteousness, but Rejoices with the Truth

Since love always seeks the good of others, it can never rejoice when evil prevails. When a brother falls �?even an obnoxious one �?we should never entertain secret thoughts of satisfaction. Rejoicing in moral wickedness is at variance with biblical love and does not have humanity’s welfare at heart.

For example, those who exult in parades for “gay rights,�?or who gleefully celebrate the liberalization of abortion laws, have utterly no perception of what real love is. Divine love cannot be divorced from objective truth.

Love Bears All Things

The verb stego conveys the picture of one object on top of another, thus hinting of either support (by the lower object), or concealment (by the upper object) (W.E. Vine, 1st Corinthians, p. 132). The ideas are not mutually exclusive �?especially in this context.

Love supports, uplifts those who are in need of such. Jesus was constantly in trouble with His Jewish critics because of His encouragement of the downtrodden (cf. Luke 15:1ff).

Moreover, one who operates out of love will cover, i.e., be slow to expose, the mistakes of another. Love “would far rather set about quietly mending things than publicly displaying and rebuking them�?(Barclay). Of course there may be a time for the open exposure of wrong (cf. 1 Tim. 5:20), but this is certainly not the initial procedure.

Love Believes All Things

This does not mean that love is gullible. Believing error is both wrong and dangerous (cf. 2 Thes. 2:11,12). Rather, the apostle has something else in mind. The sense of the verb pisteuo (believes) here is probably that of trusting (Phillips). The word can surely have that meaning (cf. John 2:24), and that seems to be indicated here. Love will give the benefit of the doubt.

When you hear a distasteful report concerning a fellow Christian, do you hesitate to believe it until the evidence is overwhelming? In these times when error is so rampant in the church, we must resist the temptation to be quickly and recklessly suspicious. We should strive to be more trusting of our kinsmen in Christ.

Love Hopes All Things

Love is optimistic; it entertains the highest expectations. Sometimes we see a struggling brother and perhaps think: “He will never make it.�?Whereas we ought to say, “I believe that with God’s assistance �?and mine �?he will make it!�?If we must err on the pessimism/optimism scale, let us err in the direction of hope.

Love Endures All Things

Even when adversity challenges again and again, love continues to operate. Agape is tough. It is not easily discouraged. True love does not give up �?on God, or on others.

Again we must emphasize �?no one can see his reflection in these words without embarrassment. The divine dictionary of love will be a lifetime challenge, but the demonstration of this virtue will evince that we are truly the Lord’s disciples (John 13:35).

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