>From: [email protected] >Reply-To: [email protected] >To: "James Roden" <[email protected]>,[email protected] >Subject: Re: Fwd: Re: Ruby Jo >Date: Mon, 01 Sep 2003 13:00:11 -0400 > >Hi: >Wanted to give you an update on Mom's condition. Physically >she's not doing well. She's in therapy and having a tough >time. Her left side is almost useless. When they sit her up >on the side of the bed, she just topples over. When they >pull her up into a standing position, she just collapses. >Her left side is so weak. They mentioned that she might be >there for 2 months. Mom cried yesterday, because she wants >to go home. I told her she had to walk first before they'd >let her go. She said she's sure she'll walk once she gets >home. It's really hard seeing her like she is. We're so use >to a strong willed, fiercely independent woman. Now she has >to rely on everyone for everything, even helping her clean >up after going to the ladies room. This part is about to >kill her. She always swore that after taking care of Granny >Haney before she died, she wouldn't let her kids see her >that way and have to take care of her personal needs. She >said she can't believe it's now happening to her. Some days >for her are better than others. If you call her room and no >one answer, don't be alarmed. 404-605-1474. She has a hard >time hearing the phone when she's alone and sometimes can't >find it, even it's right next to her. If she's overly tired, >she won't even look for it. Her mental state has also been >affected. When she's extremely tired, she talks about when >she was a child and working in the fields. Other times she >thinks people who aren't really there are in the room with >her. Even when we tell her they aren't there, she still >thinks they are. Other times, she seems her old self, but >she's always exhausted. It seems a chore just to talk for a >while or eat. Tonight is the last night someone can spend >the night with her. They want us only to come for visiting >hours, because they want her to become dependent on herself. > Sometimes we just don't know what to do. I know you guys >went through something similar with Aunt Dot. Do you have >any suggestions that might help us out? Mama has no money >for home care when she gets out, so what do we do then?? >Hope all is well with you guys... >We love you, Sandra >P.S. We haven't let Bea know. I don't know how to get in >touch with her. We would appreciate it if you would tell >her. Thanks.