Ah, me.... what can you do, other than stew, mom?

Maybe she will turn out to be a lovely girl and a good bread winner.

I hope he follow through on his Flying dream job.

That should earn him a very respectable salary and free flying if he joins an airline.

 

All we can do is love our kids and be there for them at that age. He will do what he wants to do anyway.

 

 

I don't understand what you mean by him trying to get his brothers to write letters so the girl can come to NZ. Can't she just come?

 

 

 

Does the girl being Asian bother you? I believe its a normal reponse from the girl hoping she will be accepted.

Hi Helen

Sometimes we wish we could just give them a quick kick up the backside to wake them up.

I have 2 grown sons oldest being 38 and sometimes throughout his life i have wanted to do that, he is now married but he wasted his life as he had opportunities he just threw away.And then marriage ended his dreams.

I hope like hell that your son goes on to the flying academy if that is his passion he dose not want to have any distractions it is full on learning to fly (my hb pilots cesnas)

it took yrs to save to do that but that was his passion.

And i normally dont put my opinions on here for fear of upsetting persons but i feel i can say it to you mate.

If he sponsors the girl/lady she is not going to be able to work on a visa i think and also with sponsoring someone dont they have to have money to support themselves while they are in NZ and also your son has to have a place and money to be able to keep her.

Here is hoping she dosent get sponsorship and your son can get on with the flying academy and looking to what he wants in the future

Maybe now you know you can explain to his brothers the hard facts

Good Luck Helen

I didn't realize what sponsoring meant, thanks for explaining it. It seems he would be creating more financial hardship if he does this. Have you talked o him? Good luck. Hugs! Angelbear

I pray it is a "Storm in a Teacup" as you put it.  But I would also be praying that your son has not just become a victim of a scam.  They did a show awhile back, involving Thai females, on 20/20 or Dateline.  (US investigative-news magazine shows)  It told how the females are hooking up with foreign men to get them from one country into another for illegal purposes and if they find a "patsie" they take advantage of it.  Then once they have relocated to the desired country, then they are able to connect their illegal trafficing scams and less likely to be caught.  Maybe some of the other DIVAs remember the show I'm referring to. 

 

Just pray for him and if you get the gutt feeling "something smells rotten in Denmark" then I would pray even harder and hope that you can talk to him before she is able to make permanent residence.  

 

Now that I've said all the above, it too, could be a very innocent friendship/relationship and he truly wants to help her. 

 

I thought about not saying anything about the investigative report and just keeping my "fingers clamped", but then again, maybe I should be informing you.  Only you can make the choice.

 

In my prayers that your son will realize that a 5 wk presence in one's life doesn't always mean you know them well enough for whatever reasons she wants to come to Aust or NZ.