sometimes it helps when i make a list that looks like this:

 

scott                  joni

our room           kitchen

kitchen              dining room

playroom           our room

 

etc

 

then we set the timer for 5 minutes and do whatever we want in that room.  i don't get on scott if he does something i wouldn't have done and vice versa because different things are important to us.  if a room's horrible, i put it on both of our lists and sometimes twice on both of our lists but no matter what we can't stay in the room more than 5 minutes and maybe 30 seconds after the timer goes off. 

 

we usually get the whole house reasonable in 30-60 minutes this way, even if it's totally awful.  and it usually motivates me to go back and fine tune things.

 

i hope you have a wonderful family dinner.  i'm going to revisit my lists and figure out what to do next.  check in if you have time.  i promise i'll try not to write as much next time!