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many moons ago I was a shy person but,if I thought someone was being nasty to me ,I was so quick to jump to my feet and shout at them without giving a thought to the situation or what they could have meant without first thinking.or if I got an idea to do something I would just go ahead and do it,again to not even think about who it could upset ect ect.

But now I wait for spiritual insperation befor I jump.

if I get a not very nice letter in the post,instead of reaching for my pen or the phone ,I sit back and drift along in thought and wait for spirit to promp me on what to do.

it could be the middle of the night and I'm sat there just mulling something over in my head and thats when they inspire me on what I should do.

they'r great. bless them. xxxxxxxx

What a wonderful world it would be if everyone in the world did the same Brandy,

Love Nova xxxxxxxxxxxx

I used to be a much shyer person than I am now, taking professional qualifications helped to build my confidence to stick up for myself more, although I have always been able to stick up for the underdog in any situation. Part of my work is to view situations and look at all aspects of a case before I act. I try to do the same in my personal life.

If I have a complaint to make, I make it in a structured and balanced way, setting out the details of the incident, what occurred and how that made me feel, be very specific using names of people, dates, etc. and never saying anything that is not accurate or fair. I always put into the letter what I would like to see as an outcome and mail it when I am satisfied that it covers every angle, I try not to write anything in anger as it gets me nowhere! I had cause to write to my daughters school at the end of the last academic year. She had been offered a place in the 6th Form but because they had a great deal of interest from students who were wanting to come into the school from other schools to take part in the 6th Form the teachers decided to rescind the offers already made and offer places on a first-come-first-serve basis on one particular day. I felt this was extremely unfair as my daughter had not applied to any other 6th form as she wanted to stay where she had done her GCSE's and was confident in a place. The letter I sent elicited the response I wanted, the Head of 6th form telephoned me, we discussed the matter at length and he agreed that Michelle would have a place. In a class early in the new academic year, the topic of study was writing letters and the teacher said that they should ask me to come in to talk to them about it as my letters were very good and effective!!!

To balance this, if I have a particularly good experience, good service in a shop, for instance, I always write to the manager to note the member's of staff's excellent performance and one member of my local Asda got 'Assistant of the Month' award on my recommendation. I never return any letters typed by my staff at work without a thank you, even though they are paid to do this work, a thank you costs me nothing and means a lot to them.

Hello Linda, from a very young age we are learning all the time,and we never stop learning.you are so right, it is better to think what you want to say,and how to say it. also good manners cost nothing . I find being more thoughtful and considerate gets you much further in life.god bless .Brandy xxxxxxx

Hi Nova,it would be a much better world wouldn't it,if people took the time to be more friendlier,and more polite.but I suppose"it takes all sorts" as they say.much love Brandy xxxx

I agree with you Brandy and don't you find after you have been fair and reasonable in a difficult situation that you can let the situation go easily after seeing things from another point of view or if someone is critical or unpleasant in a letter to reply just telling them things that you would normally and ending in a friendly happy way. This way things don't keep going over and over in your head, you can relax because you didn't say anything hurtful or have to worry how they will respond. Lets hope more and more people will think this way and we'd have a less agitated world. Sandy xx

hi brandy i was the one to think things over then act but cant say the same now

but to be honest i let a lot goes over my head as if folk cant say anything positive i dont listen

nanaxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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