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| | From:  Anneblessed (Original Message) | Sent: 01/07/2007 22:56 |
I've been thinking about this on and off... I joined this group in 2004 and so far I have not asked any of my friends or family members either for that matter if they wanted to join it too... I know usually when you find somewhere you like to go or similar you invite your friends and say join this it's a great group or site etc... But I've always wanted to keep this group to myself, away from my friends and family. I know I tend to meet a lot of people and I'm slightly ashamed to say I often get bored with them and move on, make new friends etc. I also know that I have let out a lot in this group about my life and inner feelings etc that I wouldn't necessarily tell anybody around me. For me it's easier in a way as I know I will not get judged here... But I have been thinking on and off, am I being selfish? Should I invite people into joining this group? What do you all think about this? Am I alone in thinking like this? XXXXX Anne |
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No Anne you are not being selfish at all. With the exception of one person that I invited to join (you know who you are  ) - I have often felt that I could no longer get things off my chest the way I used to plus the fact that obviously their behaviour being a reflection on me. You aren't being selfish and unless it was a very close friend - I too would on reflection have kept this site as just mine without others who know me and my family personally offline, Love Nova xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx  |
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jean you are so right ann your not being selfish we have all opened our hearts and let others here no how we realy feel ,from the hight of our happieness to the depth of dispair ,we all give love and support to each other we are still learning about each other when the time feels right to share ,when nova invited me to the group she new i wouldnt judge her on what she wrote or replyed to others posts ,we do talk a lot about what goes on in here but nothing negitive ,and our own experiences so it is good to have a friend to share with hope this helps love nanaxxxxxxxxx |
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I agree with Nova and nana Anne. You've got to watch what you say when other friends or members of the family are members. I keep this site for me and me alone. No way do I feel selfish about it! It's mine aaaaaalll mine lol. You are all my little rays of sunshine when the skies are gray. Polly xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx |
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Thank you for that! Haha Polly you make me laugh! Yes I think this group is very special and so far I haven't actually met anyone that makes me think 'wow he or she should be joining this group'. Actually well with the exception of maybe one..my little sister, so I might introdue her at some stage, not sure yet. She knows about this group and I often talk about things from here, so far she's not said she'd like to join and she's only just starting to discover her spiritual side but maybe later on... Well I feel better about this whole thing now, thanks! XXXXX Anne |
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| | | From: Maia | Sent: 04/07/2007 11:41 |
 awww bless ya anne!! Well i have a slight confession to make also, I havent personally invited anyone either! But i also see that people who need to get here are, or will, when its right, also we are a very honest open and sharing group and thats something that always makes me smile, knowing we can all come here and express whatever we feel at the time in safety and security, nothing to feel selfish about here hun!! lol ;o) Much love Maia xxxxxxxxx |
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Hi Anne I have just picked up your thread and I dont think you are being selfish at all. One of the easiest things to do on this site is to open up and maybe let out some things you would not want close family to know about, also I do think we have to judge carefully who we tell about spiritualism, our mediumship, etc as very few actually understand, people call me freakish or weird (my brother said that!). love and light Linda x |
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Hi Anna, no I dont think your being selfish at all.sometimes its easier to reveal inner things about yourself to people not so close to you.
its nice for you to have a place to go, away from family ,a place to escape your every day life where you can be yourself ,without having to wonder ,should I have said that or this.
no I dont think your being selfish.
lol Brandy xxxxx |
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| | | From: Wheezie | Sent: 05/07/2007 12:08 |
Anne, you aren't being selfish. I'm like Polly.... "Its mine... all mine.".....lol. I share things here that I don't share anywhere else because I know I won't be judged. I can bring forward another side of me that I don't show certain people. So don't feel selfish, Anne. The group is our "Little Gem". Hugs, Wheezie |
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Hi Anna, No I dont think your selfish, we all need an escape, to be somewhere different, with different people and to have a break from the norm. Thats not selfish chick, thats normal. Pinkpoppy xxx |
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Hi Anne, Trust me, late again to reply. I have obviously read all the wise words that you have received an I would never dream of disagreeing with any of my wonderful friends, but i have no problem in telling any of my family or the coulpe of very good friends that I have, about my membership in the group. I believe that without the marvelous friends that I have here, I would be a much poorer person, not only in spiritual values. If I feel very down, I know that I can come on the site and get help to revive myself and to give me back confidence that I may have lost and because I know this for a fact, should then if I have a friend who I know is having spiritual problems, point him or her in the direction of all you wonderful people, I think that I should, as long as I am very careful who I point this way. All my family know how much I enjoy your company and look forward to being with you all, but they never get involved, except for Emily and she doesn't come in to our group, only because she is not well enough. I suppose everyone has their own views and that is how this world of ours keeps on turning and I would never dream of saying that my views are better than anyone else's. I always have pleasure in telling everyone that I believe in Spiritualism and yes I often get some funny looks, (but I love it when people come to my door to sell various religous items and I say "no thanks, I am a spiritualist", I wonder why they make a bee line to the gate). But seriously Anne, to very simply answer your question, "No" you are not being selfish, because as with what we get from spirit, you must do with your knowledge, what "You" think is right. I always try to, not always successfully. Love and Light Ray |
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| | | From: Chazz | Sent: 07/07/2007 23:39 |
Hi Anne,
no I don't think your being selfish! I personally look at it as I'm having 'me' time. most of my friends really are not the spiritual sort anyway, I don't talk about my experiences with them. Luckily within this group, I've found acceptance of who I am. It's true what you say I can have quite easy conversations with like minded people such as all of you and would find it quite hard to open up to any of my friends. I've been labled too many times, which is why I don't open up to those kinds of 'friends' anymore.
I enjoy my family here and don't want to share them except with everyone else here!!
my love to you
chazz
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Thanks again for all of your interesting and helpful answers to my post! I think that I would probably know if I did have a friend who would appreciate the group like me and then I would invite them. But the fact is I do actually talk about this group and so far I haven't had a single friend say something like 'what's the name of it can I join?' or similar. I think if they did then maybe that would be different. But isn't it amazing how many of us in this group have similar views? I know I've had to tell my children that maybe it's best them not telling all of their friends etc about for example the fairy that I saw once during my meditation. I always tell my children about things like that as I do want them to believe and to be open to spiritual things, but at the same time I have to tell them that others will not be as open and they might get ridiculed, laughed at etc for telling them things like that so some things are best kept to ourselves, it's a shame but that's the way things are. It's always nice to be able to come on here and be able to discuss these things openly though! XXXXX Anne |
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Hi Anne - have had a chance to go around a few of the boards here tonight and found your post - and just wanted to add my 2 cents worth - No, we are not being selfish - I too consider this "my personal sounding board, growth site - and the friends I have here have all helped so much. If you think it is odd in some places to admit your beliefs - well, just take my word for it - Spiritualism and my faith are not usually topics of conversation with "most" of my acquaintances lol! Even at work, only a few knew of my beliefs, and they were two very close friends - and semi-believers if there is such a thing lol! This is home - and we feel like we do because it is hon! Hugs, CC |
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