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| | From:  snows34 (Original Message) | Sent: 10/09/2007 16:28 |
Hi well i dont know where to really start but i am so feeling down at the mo,,,,,when i thought all is well but really wishfull thinking... But there are a few issues i cant get my head over and dont know what to do as whatever i try to say or do people like to hurt me even more...... i dont really know what friends expect of me but it's too much these day's as i am feeling that everything isnt worth my trouble at all,,,,,, I as a true friend will alway's help and be there for others i will also give advice when needed i will also hear their troubles without critizizing i know spelling isnt right but you know what i mean i will listen to their problems and never repeat what i have said or heard and most of all i will accept any decission they make and still be there for them but how come when i have a simple question to ask my friends it feels world war too has hit me and feel like disowning these friends as i can not take any negative from them i have gone through a big change this last few months and i can say where these people might be laughing about me why is it me that's alway's feeling so sad i dont know but that's all i can say is that if people want to take something the wrong way well they have the problem and not me but i will not be a target that they can hurt any more.. traceyxx . |
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My mom could have written this post. As probably any kind person could have. She is a very caring person and goes out of her way to please people and hlep people. Many times, when no one is the "sucker" enough to help that person that ALWAYS needs help, well she feels so badly, she always obliges only to be treated badly if things don't go their way. I always tell her the same thing. Always help those who need help, becuase it's the right hitng to do and it's also your nature to do so (when she isn't helping, she is misreable). But learn to know which ones want help and want to change and those who want help but only want it becuase they are too lazy to take care of themselves (either physically or emotionally). Because many need help but are not ready to be "Helped". So in the very end, they never benefit from your help, end up in the same place as before and you end up exhausted and discouraged becuase you feel you didn't do enough. Only to ask them for some help when you trully need it and get the whole story of how they are still in the same bad rut because "you" didn't help them enough (when they didn't even help themselves). I'm rambling on and on.... but i think you know what I'm saying. It never feels good to be the beaten one, especially when you try so hard to help them, but in the end, you are the better person becuase you do not judge them and you help them no matter what abuse you take from them. You don't deserve to be treated this unfairly. IF they are treating you badly, well then they don't deserve being called a friend especially after all you have done for them. Take your time to gain your own strength and who cares if they are laughing. That is mere arrogance and insensitivity on their part and it isn't worth your time. Spend your time on yourself and those who really do care. Martine |
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| awwww Trace (((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))and kisses ,dont let them get to you .we love you. why dont you ask spirit to protect you inside a big bubble ,thats what I do when I feel people are getting at me . I imagine I'm inside a protective bubble that no one with negative thoughts can penetrate,only nice people .and ask for spirit to protect you.you are too nice to be upset. .lots of love ,Brandy xxxxxx |
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I feel so sorry that these people are taking advantage of you. Perhaps its time for you to put your foot down (if you're feeling brave) and say STOP this, stop it now. HOWEVER, I know thats not always easy to do, and sometimes even very needy friendships are better than rattling around on your own. I learned a trick when I first started out on my little hippy trail (as I call my spiritual journey)...let me ramble a bit.... I used to work in a the British Embassy in America (sounds grand, it wasn't let me promise you). In the building were foreign office people, ministry of defence people, ministry civil servants and local expat british people - BOY WAS THAT ONE BIG EGO MESS RIGHT THERE. There was a lot of fighting and in-house politics as I am sure you can imagine, and everyone would climb on the back of others trying to get promoted, get a better job or whatever. Trust me it as a horrible place to work, but I had no choice, I was divorced from my daughters dad,and couldn't afford to come home (odd though that may sound). Anway, I digress, once I had started my hippy journey and stepped away from the ego driven, power crazy energy dynamic,I found that people I had thought were good friends actually weren't. That within a few minutes of sitting and listening them blab on and on, or put up with them whilst they sat and critisized me and tell me that my path was a load of old tosh, I found that I was going home even more upset than before I had started to walk the path of light, and yet these same folks still wanted me to sit and listen to their problems about who had back stabbed them, and stillwanted me to defend their bitchy behaviour. These people were draining my energy and making me feel more helpless than I had felt during the breakdown of my marriage and the divorce. It was like being blood sucked by a bunch of very hungry vampires. Anyway, lets cut a long story a bit shorter....I learned to see a big silver light beteen me and whoever it was that was draining me or upsetting me. And once I got the hang of that, I started to see the silverlight turn into a mirror; on the back of the mirror facing towards me was violet and a symbol of protection from these folks energies, and the front of it a silver mirror of love directing all their energy back to them in a loving non intrusive way. You might not believe me, but this really really worked and after a few weeks, if people came and sat and talked to me, they would actually be civil and save their cattiness for their friends that were interested. Also it meant, because I wasn't drained all the timeI was in a good position to listen to their proper problems and help them through that. It is the single most successful thing I have ever tried, and now that I am little bit older on my journey, its a technique that I use almost without thinking. Go on, give it a go, it takes a day or so to get the hang of, but all you have to do is quietly observe your breath and just think about a silver light between you and them, pushing (with love) all their negativity back to them to deal with (you dont have to feel thelove, just think it - especially if they are really getting on your wick!) Remember its all their trash, you don't want it on you lap do you? Hope this helps  |
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If Tracey put's me in between ,( what with me being Spirited Silver light lol) I will scream. I have enough people sending negative thought's to me as it is. Although, I can handle them and send them back, I dont want to take on anymore thank's lol But Soldarath you will never know how right you are lol Snow's buddy as you now know, there are two side's to every story. It's detaching and seeing the big pic for what it really is. Misconception can lead to upset and that can lead to anger and the end of a friendship. I know thats not what you want. So take a deep breath and tell your friend how much you love her. Hurt can mend and heal and as you are both healers, why not heal each other? Note: Thing's are not always as they seem and we need to be fair to the other person. Without knowing the fact's we can not judge. We may want to comfort that person's hurt feeling's and thats fine, but if we dont know what happened, how can we be so harsh on the other person. Judgement is easy to dish out without knowlage. So I guess what I am saying is know the facts, before dealing out judgement. You could be hurting the feeling's of someone who dosent deserve to be treated that way. Love Silver xxxxxxx |
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| | | From: snows34 | Sent: 15/09/2007 07:00 |
Hi guy's and thanks for your replies everything each and one of you has made sense,,,luckly i have the week away so i can regenerise for that,,,Silver,,i knowwhat you mean,,there is so many way's you can interpriate a situation and that is one that people have to solve for themselves how to look at a situation without wanting to get it wrong etc....i do love my friend and care for her and it could be that i am so used to people hurting me i cant see beyond this,at one point i thought i may as well not speak and stay silent but i hate the silentness you know,,i just hope that my pal knows that i truley do care.There's no point in going back to the begining coz it's something i can brush away now,that was then this is now i say.....anyway time is calling with so many things to do before i head off today....thanks for all your thoughts.. love traceyxxxxxxxx |
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snows hope you have a great holiday love nanaxxxxxxxxxxxx |
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Have a wonderful holiday, Love Nova xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx  |
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