You are not being over protective Chazz at all - I think that is a flaming cheek to just take Lily out of her pram. 

You have already done what I would have suggested and that is talking to them.

Do you think perhaps you are too nice - I know there shouldn't really be such a thing but when I saw your pic I thought you had the kindest face I have ever seen. Maybe just be more assertive - sorry hun I can't think of anything else.

 

Love Nova xxxxxxxxxx 

lol i just typed out a message and when i read back through the thread i'd just told you to do what you already done which was talk to them lol sorry its late and im tired and should be in bed, lol

i do sympathise with you though chazz as i lack assetiveness, and i hate confrontation. I think the fact that you have asked them not to do it and they still do is really rude. are you closer to any one of them in particular? maybe you could just speak to one of them and tell her how this is getting to you and she can have a word with the others too? Other than that i would stand guard lol i know this sounds exteme but when your in the situation next time, keep hold of the pram and if someone goes to lift lily out just put your hand out and say "oh do you mind just leaving her, she happy where she is " that should get the message across- even if you have to add a little bit on the end to soften it, if it will help you be firmer by saying "its just when im out on my own she will want me to keep lifting her out and I dont want to start that just yet". I find sometimes if im trying to get my point across i say something like that and it helps me get it out. I hope you work it out chazz as its no fun if your going to stop wanting to meet up with them. If i think of anything else i will let you know good luck xxx

shellyxx

I hope it works hun, maybe having a heart to heart with one their own will be more effective, i'm always a mediator between my friends, if ones upset at the other I always seem to be the one who has them both one the phone moaning about the other one, and i dont like to get caught up in others arguments so i try and make them both see it from the others point of view and its not worth falling out over and its always worked so far!!! touch wood! not that my friends argue much lol but sometimes things get said and misunderstood. good luck with it anywaay chazz let us know how it goes............i shall send you lots of positive vibes so that this situation gets resolved.

and saying about adding in a nice bit at the end...im such a wimp lol i always say what i need to but tend to soften it a bit, sometimes it doesnt work as people think im a soft touch, then i do have to be more firm, but i dont mind being firm then as i know ive given them a chance without me getting stroppy so i can then point out that i think they are taking the proverbal!!! lol I would love to be more out spoken sometimes, the times ive walked away thinking oh i wish id said this or that, but i am i lot more assetive since ive had the kids, I think becoming a mum gives you that animal instict to protect your own and you find an inner strength you never had before, or maybe that was just me lol ....anyway there i go waffling again, lol take care

shelly xxx

Hi Chazz, do you know I was positive I answered in this post but its not there lol.

 

Sounds as if you are an empath so put up your protective shield girl, it's the only way round for you not picking up from others.  It can, and do I know it, throw you completely.

 

Love Polly xxxxxxxxxx

Oh i'm glad you sorted this out chazz, its a weight lifted isnt it when you've had something hanging over you....or in your case someone  else has had something hanging over them lol.

love shelly xx