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From: MSN Nicknamejimmyjoyce1  (Original Message)Sent: 6/9/2008 7:53 PM
I have to say this and its kinda difficult but its been bugging me for somewhile and it wont go away although I wished it would, she said:
 
Just once before I die
I want to eat at that restaurant
on the Isle of Skye
a rocky domain of wonderous sea food
just to dream one more time
before
you scatter my ashes
                                              in our tiny zen garden
full and fluttering with all my headscarves
tied from fence and trellis.
 
So it happened that Sandra died on march 5th 2003. We had had plans to live inTuscany. It was where she felt safe and at home. In her illness she avoided the hospitals and the eerie silences that surround people in intensive care with drips and machinery bleeping, working out just how much time you had to live. She became semi-comatose but she knew I was there with my son and daughter as her fingers wrapped strongly round my daughter's hand. I said in her ear, Darling just let go, please and go to rest.
 
I placed my hand on hers and I knew she was going but somehow her hands had a strength and her grip became tighter as she tried to hang on. She called me Jimmy, which as you know is not my real name. She pulled me down and somehow kissed my ear before letting forth four long slow gasps and then no more.
 
I had the instructions and what to do. She had said:
 
A cardboard coffin
decorated with my granchildrens paintings
and drawings.
She chose the music.
So let me sing her song tonight
and let me feel out of sight
and perhaps some will cry
when you cast my ashes
and promise some eyes will be dry.
 
Her departure affected a community, here where I live. There was a Scattering of Ashes ceremony
 

As we gather here today let us not forget the importance of ritual which helps bind us together and heal old hurts and wounds. We are today placing Sandra in our hearts and ensuring she is now finally at home in this little garden she created.<o:p></o:p>

To honour her memory we offer the gift of flowers symbolic of the blossoming of life and its inevitable impermanence and withering away.

We offer the gift of incense in which the sweet smell of her good deeds may spread across the universe. <o:p></o:p>

We offer fruit in which all living beings may taste her goodness.<o:p></o:p>

We offer candles to light her on her way and to illuminate the darkness for all other beings.<o:p></o:p>

 <o:p></o:p>

 May the good deeds and merits of our beloved Sandra, wife mum, nanny and friend ripen and come to fruition for the benefit of all living beings.<o:p></o:p>

May she dwell in a world of serenity and peace. May she hear us today and live within our hearts as long as she needs and as long as we need her to. By this she will not be forgotten.

We here, her family, gather to transfer all our good thoughts and deeds and hers for the benefit of all that lives. ( Each member of family takes ashes and commence to scatter)<o:p></o:p>

As we scatter now her ashes in this peaceful garden may this transference commence.

(speaker or other takes cup centre table and fills allowing it to run and continue to run over as the following is said)<o:p></o:p>

“As rivers brimmed with water fill the ocean, so charity practised here benefits the departed. As water fallen upon a hilly place flows down to the valley, so charity practised here benefits the departed�?lt;o:p></o:p>

Sandra, you are home once more. You are as the dew upon a lotus. Let go now and mix with the elements……�?.The sun rises, the sun sets, the dewdrop slips into the shining sea. <o:p></o:p>

(water from container is splashed by hand by those present around the garden)

 

The words are ritualistic and everyone was in tears as her grandchildren spread her ashes around the garden. She had the funeral of her choice. Her passing gave me delayed shock and trauma.  I feel I have since moved on but shall not forget her!

 

Please do not be cross with me for writing this but I had to let it go...

 
 
 


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From: MSN Nicknamejimmyjoyce1Sent: 6/9/2008 7:57 PM
Sorry but something seems to have gone amiss with the fonts! One line should read 'her headscarves' not 'my!

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From: MSN NicknameZydhaSent: 6/10/2008 12:49 AM
Oh, Dear Jimmy (Ken), now I feel so inclined to remain with you as Jimmy after reading this, but then again, perhaps to stay with ken since Jimmy was the name Sandra gave you....which would be your choice in your superb display of writing skills?
 
Please do not apologise, I am happy that you feel comfortable enough within our friends here to take this step.
 
Someone has allowed 13 new applicants in so we have some strangers amongst us, Ken, but do not let that ever interfere with the bonding which has already taken place between you and the group.
I will be vigilant that everyone is suitable and compatable... for the balance of folk/poets here is what allows us to expose our deeper feelings with comfort, so do not feel reluctant ever to let such sensitive words speak for you, this was a very touching read, and I offer my late condolances, Ken, for you obviously shared a love which was deep and binding, Sandra must have been a wonderful woman to have known.
 
BTW...would you like me to repost this in a simple frame, or if you wished, you can copy and paste into a new box.....and use the icons to unify the font in size and get rid of those <op> things which would give this post the precence it warrents?
I can always delete the original with ease.
This is good in Prose as it will stay nearby for further reads, but I will catch up on your Collective thread in time, but meanwhile, thank you for sharing this tender and sad moment with us/me, kind thoughts, Zy

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From: MSN Nickname1oldarmybearSent: 6/10/2008 3:15 AM
My dear friend, Ken.  This writing has left me with tears filled eyes.  I grieve with you for the loss of your dear wife.  Know that you will be reunited with her in the next life and will have a joyoous reunion in the presence of our Lord... Compassionately Yours,  Don

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From: MSN Nicknamejimmyjoyce1Sent: 6/10/2008 7:55 PM
Dear Zy..... thankyou sovery much... I would be honoured for you just to do as you suggest in a simple frame... I always muck this sort of thing up...you are a true friend indeed..... regards ...all my love from k

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From: MSN Nicknamejimmyjoyce1Sent: 6/10/2008 7:58 PM

Dear friend Bear... you are a lovely kind man... thankyou for your touching and warm words, they are truly appreciated... regards and all best wishes from k


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From: MSN NicknameZydhaSent: 7/18/2008 11:04 PM

 
 
Just once before I die
I want to eat at that restaurant
on the Isle of Skye
a rocky domain of wonderous sea food
just to dream one more time
before
you scatter my ashes
 in our tiny zen garden
full and fluttering with all my headscarves
tied from fence and trellis.
 
So it happened that Sandra died on march 5th 2003.
 
We had had plans to live inTuscany. It was where she felt safe and at home. In her illness she avoided the hospitals and the eerie silences that surround people in intensive care with drips and machinery bleeping, working out just how much time you had to live. She became semi-comatose but she knew I was there with my son and daughter as her fingers wrapped strongly round my daughter's hand. I said in her ear, Darling just let go, please and go to rest.
 
I placed my hand on hers and I knew she was going but somehow her hands had a strength and her grip became tighter as she tried to hang on. She called me Jimmy, which as you know is not my real name. She pulled me down and somehow kissed my ear before letting forth four long slow gasps and then no more.
 
I had the instructions and what to do. She had said:
 
A cardboard coffin
decorated with my granchildrens paintings
and drawings.
She chose the music.
So let me sing her song tonight
and let me feel out of sight
and perhaps some will cry
when you cast my ashes
and promise some eyes will be dry.
 
Her departure affected a community, here where I live.
There was a Scattering of Ashes ceremony
 

As we gather here today let us not forget the importance of ritual which helps bind us together and heal old hurts and wounds.

We are today placing Sandra in our hearts and ensuring she is now finally at home in this little garden she created.

To honour her memory we offer the gift of flowers symbolic of the blossoming of life and its inevitable impermanence and withering away.

We offer the gift of incense in which the sweet smell of her good deeds may spread across the universe.

We offer fruit in which all living beings may taste her goodness.

We offer candles to light her on her way and to illuminate the darkness for all other beings.

 May the good deeds and merits of our beloved Sandra, wife mum, nanny and friend ripen and come to fruition for the benefit of all living beings.

May she dwell in a world of serenity and peace.

May she hear us today and live within our hearts as long as she needs and as long as we need her to.

By this she will not be forgotten.

We here, her family, gather to transfer all our good thoughts and deeds and hers for the benefit of all that lives.

( Each member of family takes ashes and commence to scatter)

As we scatter now her ashes in this peaceful garden may this transference commence.

(speaker or other takes cup centre table and fills allowing it to run and continue to run over as the following is said)

“As rivers brimmed with water fill the ocean, so charity practised here benefits the departed. As water fallen upon a hilly place flows down to the valley, so charity practised here benefits the departed�?/FONT>

Sandra, you are home once more. You are as the dew upon a lotus. Let go now and mix with the elements……�?.The sun rises, the sun sets, the dewdrop slips into the shining sea.

(water from container is splashed by hand by those present around the garden)

 

The words are ritualistic and everyone was in tears as her grandchildren spread her ashes around the garden. She had the funeral of her choice. Her passing gave me delayed shock and trauma.  I feel I have since moved on but shall not forget her!

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