Rule # 7 When we're turning the wheel and the car is nosing onto the ramp, you saying "This is our exit" is not necessary.

(answer from one of our Men)

Unfortunately, I have to acknowledge that all too many men today probably *would* rewrite "The Rules" very much like this.  It makes me somewhat ashamed of the wretched condition of my gender, on the average, when women are often, quite justifiably, heard laughing together at the absurdities of men's behaviors. I regularly hear women agreeing amongst themselves that men are simply, hopelessly, "that way".

 

However, and this is probably much more prevalent in Goddess-oriented pagan groups , there are some few of we sons of The Horned One who have managed to break out of these patterns, to greater and lesser degrees. 

 

Here are some insights into my honest opinion on some of these things.  If you are skeptical, write my wife. hehe  

 

 

 

Rule # 1 Anything we said six or eight months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after seven days.

It's a proven and accepted scientific fact that women and men have brains that are very, very similar, but physically different in some ways.  This may be responsible for our seemingly inherent disability to remember details after some time has passed. Also, men tend to mentally file things differently.  For men, when we percieve a particular situation to be satisfactorily resolved, it seems to get filed in special part of the male brain that runs under the rule of, "keep this file a short time and then it's safe to delete." My personal experience leads me to believe that women do not have nearly as much trouble with this little 'inconvenience'.    But I have to admit there are many (unhappy) men who are just using it as a cop-out.

 

Rule # 2 If we say something that can be interpreted in two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other way.

I see guys do this all the time.  Frankly, it's a cop-out.  Come on guys, grow a pair. When you use this one, you're not only rude and dismissive to the woman, you're fricking embarrasing us.

Rule # 3 It is in neither your best interest nor ours to make us take those stupid Cosmo quizzes together. 

Sharing those quizes is a good way of getting to know each other better.  My experiences along this line indicate that, when men can manage to let down their guard and drop their fears of sharing of themsleves on an intimate level, the women in their lives are both amazed and rather pleased.  

 

 

Rule # 4 You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done -- not both.

Why not? <shrugs>

 

Rule # 5 Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials or time-outs.

Please see response to Question #2 above. 

Rule # 6 Christopher Columbus didn't need directions and neither do we.

Guys, getting lost happens.  Staying lost, and looking quite stupid for it, out of a misguided sense of pride is completely optional.  Again, you're embarrasing us.

 

 

Rule # 7 When we're turning the wheel and the car is nosing onto the ramp, you saying "This is our exit" is not necessary.

 

Personally I find receiving this information rather comforting.  It's a very good sign when pilot and navigator agree.  Remember the lost dude from the previous question?  hehehe

 

 

 

Some will disagree, and that's okay too.  But I find that there's more in common between us as men and women than there are things that divide us. 

 

Unstereotypically Yours,

-Fyre