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General : DISCUSSION: Seasonal Depression
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From: MomOf4  (Original Message)Sent: 10/12/2008 7:49 PM
Seasonal Depression, also known as Seasonal Affective Disorder

Do the bleak winter months get you down -- more than you think they should? Maybe you have seasonal depression, also known as seasonal affective disorder or SAD. Seasonal depression is a mood disorder that happens every year at the same time. A rare form of seasonal depression, known as "summer depression," begins in late spring or early summer and ends in fall. But in general, seasonal affective disorder starts in fall or winter and ends in spring or early summer.

What causes seasonal affective disorder?

There are two seasonal patterns with SAD. One starts in the fall and continues through the winter, and the other starts in late spring or early summer. The fall-onset type, often referred to as "winter depression," is better known and easier to recognize -- and we know more about it than we know about its counterpart.

Hormones manufactured deep in the brain automatically trigger attitudinal changes at certain times of year. Experts believe that SAD is related to these hormonal changes. One theory is that reduced sunlight during fall and winter leads to reduced production of serotonin in the the brain. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that has a soothing, calming effect. The result of there not being enough serotonin is feelings of depression along with symptoms of fatigue, carbohydrate craving, and weight gain.

 
I don't usually get Seasonal Depression. Or, as it is called (SAD)..now, doesn't that term fit the problem! Personally, I feel that depression is a natural emotion after the loss of a child....I know that there were times when I did not even want to see or talk to anyone...I just wanted to be left alone to wallow in my grief....I did not even want to eat.  My daughter got worried about me not eating. She would fix me a plate and stay with me to make sure that I ate at least a few bites. I did try, just for her.
Shortly after my Bobby died, I got the worse case of diarrhea I have ever seen...I had it for 6 months straight...I broke down bawling in the doctors office...My doctor put me on antidepressants and sent me to a gastrointerologist to check and make sure that there was nothing physical wrong...after all kinds of tests, the doctor said that there was not anything wrong....I asked him of depression could cause this, and he said yes, and I told him that within 6 months time I had lost both my brothers and my son.....he put me on something to help control the diarrhea, and said to give it  another month or so and if it did not start clearing up to come back.  It lasted for 6 months....and it stopped.  I am stillon the anti-depressant...I want to get off of it some day...but, when I try, I have days that I just want to cry all day...so, for now I will stay on them, and give myself a better quality of life...I am happy to say that the depression is not nearly as bad as it was in the beginning after I lost my Bobby. 
 
Yes, depression hurts...it does cause physical problems..and it hurts everyone around you and makes our lives almost unbearable at times.
 
If you have had a problem with depression...I hope that you will share your experience in the hopes of helping someone else...and maybe, yourself.
Love and hugs....Rean
 
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From: MSN Nicknamesidekick_43Sent: 10/14/2008 2:44 AM
I agree that seasonal depression is a very real thing.........but, like you, I believe that people shouldn't be diagnosed with it shortly after losing a child.   I think that anyone who has lost a child.....and becomes sad, depressed and withdrawn......is going through natural feelings.  It's a good thing......a hard thing......but a normal thing.  I always get a little concerned when people get taken to a doctor immediately after a death and get put on anti-depressants.  Then they tend to stay on them.......for lengthy periods......and when they go off of them......then they need to deal with their grief that was left unresolved.   It's a hard place to be in.   I think natural grief should be allowed to take its course.  After some time has passed and it is still intense but much of the grief has been lived......then maybe get put on something........but not right away.  
And, like you Rean,  just a few days after Rachel died.....I woke up in intense pain.   For almost 8 months I was in horrible pain.  I couldn't walk somedays..........I would wish I could just die it was so bad..........When it resolved 8 months later........I think it was due to a lot of things. The doctors take credit......but, I think I reached a point in my grief journey that I knew I needed to move forward with my life as Rachel would have wanted. It was hard......but Sina needed me and my mom needed me........I knew that as much as I didn't feel like it, I needed to do it.   I reached a point......and my pain started slowly going away.  I do believe that grief, depression and physical health are closely  linked.......much more than we sometimes realize.
 
I guess.....everything is linked together.....................that's life!
                                  God's peace......(HUGS).......Cindy