Your story sure hit me.  My son went instantly in a car accident also.  The difference was I was driving.  Not wrecklessly, it was just fate I guess.  So I can tell you that poor boy that drove your son will never forget that horrible day.  Everyone including the cop told me that it was just a freak accident but I will always blame myself.  So for it to be cause of his wreckless driving must be awful.  I noticed you saying you laughed at the snowball.  It is funny in the shock what you can laugh at.  I imagine he was sending you a message.  If you keep your eyes and mind open you will keep seeing them.  I have gotten a few from my son.  At least I think so anyway.  I am glad you are allowing God to heal you.  It is amazing what he can pull us through.  I couldn't have pictured myself a year in on the day I lost him. I am also glad you went to see him.  It is amazingly healing to say goodbye.  I had to beg for that privilege.  They wrapped my son up so I wouldn't look at him but I already saw him at the scene.  It is just so instant.  There is no goodbye or warning.  It is a shocking hard way to lose your son.  It is a harsh way I think.  I feel for you.  He was a beautiful looking boy.  I hope God gives me as much strength as you have.  I believe we all have a time we go and God will just make it be.  So I don't think it was that boy's fault.  God just used that moment to take his angel home.  I think Bobby fulfilled whatever he was supposed to to here.  I believe these children come here to teach us.