My support system has been large and varied. Family, co-workers, christian friends from church, It is hard for me to decide that question of who was the most support ...I would have to say that here in Oklahoma, it would probably be my wonderful husband of almost 46 years...he never tells me 'it's time to move on', and he never changes the subject when I want to talk about our son....
At the time we lost our son...2 of my best supporters was my wonderful friends, Donna and Clara...I have known both of these women for over 20 years. Donna was at work (same place I worked) when I called her...she left work immediately and came to my home....I then called Clara, and while on the phone with Clara, Donna showed up at my door...I told Clara that I would call her back, but, when I tried, I did not get an answer...she was on her way to my house....I felt like I could say anything that I need to say, and neither one of these wonderful friend would judge me...for some reason, I was especially close to Clara, and we still are in touch often....
I can't forget my sweet, sister, Kathy,,,,When I arrived at the ER that fateful day, right behind the ambulance, I called Kathy and told her that I needed her, that I thought Bobby was dead...her heart sank, she said, 'I'll be right there', and she was... My son's sweet wift, Toni, and I were always very close, and the months after we lost Bobby, she was at my house a lot, and we supported each other.
Oh, and then there is Gloria from church...she lost a son also a few years ago, so she is the one who really understood what I was going through, and she let me say what I needed to say,
As I said, it would be hard to decide just who was the most support...as all these wonderful people, let me say what I needed to say, and they were there when I needed them, and they cried many tears with me.....But, I guess I would have to say that of the 3, Gloria would be the one who really understood because she had been there herself...and we all know that is the only way that anyone can ever really understand...
Hugs...Rean