I understand what you mean by others starting over...my Bobby's widow has moved all the way from California to New Jersey to be with a man she met on the internet. And, even though I am told that he is good to her....I am having a hard time with it. I know that Bobby would not want her to be alone for the rest of her life....but, I still consider her as HIS wife. I don't believe that Karl would want his wife to be alone forever either. I hope that man she married is good to her and the children.
I guess it is harder for the parent or grandparent to move on than it is for anyone else. 31 months is not really very long... and there is no time table for grieving. I am glad that you get to see your granchildren. They are pretty special to us. My Bobby's daughter is expecting her first baby...I know Bobby would be so happy...and he would be a good grandpa.
I know it's hard to believe that things will get better.... but, I believe things do get better....for some, it just takes a little longer...Bobby has been gone for 6 years...it is better, but, there are still some bad days.
Take care of yourself....
Hugs...Rean