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How do you feel about interracial relationships? Is there a problem for one if they marry? Is it accepted more today than 30 years ago? |
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| | | From: lindush | Sent: 2/29/2008 12:43 AM |
What reason could there possibly BE for having objections? How is it hurtingYOU (anyone)? People are not as insulated as they were 30 years ago. 200 years ago, it was a scandal if you married someone outside your village. 100 years ago, a mixed marriage was someone not of your nationality.50 years ago, a mixed marriage was one of different religions.Eventually, most people realized these judgements were based in fear. Some folks cling to these fears; it's really a shame. My daughter dated a wonderful young man of a different race all through high school and part of college.We looked forward to him being our son- in -law & love him dearly still, even though they are no longer together. The only problem with interracial relationships are those people who MAKE it a probem. If you don't like it, simply don't say anything... and we won't say anything about some of the things you do that we don't approve of. Live and let live. |
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| | | From: Babs | Sent: 2/29/2008 11:31 AM |
Definitely a loaded subject... I have no issue with mixed couples... race, religion, gender... it's no one's business but theirs... I believe in personal choice in all things... |
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| | | From: deb | Sent: 2/29/2008 9:35 PM |
we are all of the same race ... the human race ... maybe different ethnicities, but the same race ... when i began working at school, i redid all the forms in my office, from race to ethnic background ... i must say that that phrase is one i have forever had a problem with ... yup, just me ...  |
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Because I "live and let live" is exactly why I didn't write my opinion on here. Everybody can do whatever they want...but for me, myself, I don't want to be in a relationship outside of my race. And it's not that I say this without experience because I have dated outside my race and it wasn't comfortable for me, even though the guys were really nice men. I, personally wasn't comfortable. So if I was to write my own opinions on here, I might not be "politically correct". The political correct thing would be "there's nothing wrong with it". But for myself, can't do it. |
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Deb...I'm just seeing this post by you. Yes we all belong to the human race but when people speak of marrying of different "ethnic background" it still comes out by most using the word interracial. I do believe ethnic background sounds more respectful but I definitely meant no disrespect to anyone in my wording. I learned something here and will try and remember using ethnic background. |
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It doesn't bother me at all. My #1 DIL is Korean #2 is Columbian They are both great in differant ways. I guess I'm partial to #1 DIL only because she has the Grand Children. Trish  |
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| | | From: deb | Sent: 3/25/2008 11:32 PM |
greetings, Angelbear ...  ... no problems ... i know you meant nothing negative by your question, and it is a good question for discussion, for sure ... it's just me ... i guess you could say, it has always just been one of those things with me, for as long as i can remember, even as a little girl ... my parents, and their families generations back, have always been prejudiced, not in a mean way, but in an ignorant way, and whenever they would say something hurtful, i always felt the need to speak up ... which is really something for me, cuz i am a very non-confrontational person ... it's all good ...  |
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hmmmm I never thought about this until now.The conditioning (prejudices) we all grew up with in one form or another are with us. When we meet and fall in love with someone different than what was drummed into us means you truly have seen the soul of the person not just the skin. I bet those marriages last longer than what's considered the norm. just my humble opinion |
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That was beautiful Shebaro. |
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I know this is an old thread but after reading it have to add.... I have three of the most beautiful Bi Racial Great Grand babies you could ever want.... There Daddy is Black.... Good guy... I get some stares when I take the little ones places and I stare right back..... I had the oldest say to me one night she is now 4... Granny am I a Nig........ I SAID NO HONEY YOUR A LITTLE GIRL WHO IS LUCKY TO BE FROM TWO WONDERFUL PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU MORE THEN LIFE.. I told her never use that word and never let anyone hurt her again.... To look in the mirror and she would see this cute and special little girl.... For thats what I see when I look at you told her... I hate people who are racists and this is so sad for the kids............ I was not brought up to look at the color of a person who how they looked... I look at the person for who they are for how they treat me and others..... I have many different breeds in me... I love people for who you are........ |
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Angelbear: wonderful question!! I dont have a problem. Yes it is more accepted, but do you think maybe more in some regions than others (i.e., I live in Seattle no one bats any eye, but when I go home to the south I still see it met with disdain and ignorance). Cherylloraine: GOOD FOR YOU!! and I'm glad that you are their grandmother and not someone else (my mother). Deb: I know what you mean about the ignorance, I still face it now every time I go home. I haven't seen my niece in years because of this reason. My mother doesn't accept her because she dates only black men....so sad. She moved away and I cant find her. |
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When my daughter starting seeing a black man,she kept the relationship secret from all of the family.We grew up in deep south where racial prejidice is rampent.But in her generation its no big deal.Its not for me,I have a wonderful husband. He's a country boy and a little redneck haha. But my daughter has a good man too, and i have the most beautiful 2 month old granddaughter. when i look at her. i dont see a bi-racial baby, i see a beautiful little girl and i love her so much.Some of my family is not accepting of it but its their loss. I am trully blessed . We are all gods children . |
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JuJu- I know know but its possible to be more dominant in one region ove rthe other. Countryboysdiva- It truly is their loss if they can't accept it. |
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JuJu I meant to say "I don't know but its possible to be more dominant in one region over the other." |
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I knew what you meant to say..no worries. |
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