Then also Ns use nice stuff as a way of controlling others and staying on top of the situation. It keeps others questioning themselves and off-balance.
And then there is that self-image they want to present to others and themselves. When they do something "nice" for you, probably what is going through their minds is not you, but how generous, kind, noble, and wonderful THEY are.
So, as hard as it is to do, we ultimately need to look at all those "nice" gestures as just so much stuff n' nonsense-manipulative, self-serving, and also just human. |
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