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I have spoken with smile and she suggestedd that I let everyone in the family know why I haven't been around. First of all to all the new people welcome and I can't wait to get to know you!

So much has happened in my life. The summer was very long my mother in law has lymphoma and we have been dealing with chemo and radiation. On Spetember 1st my Dad passed away. I have been dealing with a lot of issues with his passing. My step-mom is not a very nice person and didn't even call me to let me know that he died. I had to track down my Dad to find that 2 days after his death he was still in the hospital morgue. I was going to claim his body because step mom was not returning the hospitals calls. When I was taking my DPOA to the hospital she was sending a place over to cremate him without any funeral. I told the hospital that she could have his body, but that I wanted to see him for closure. I saw my Dad at the hospital and an elder from my church came and we prayed together. The only problem is my daughters did not have closure. All of my Dad's possesions are with the step mom. They have only been married a year, I have been taking care of my Dad for over 20 years. After I spoke with my Dad I couldn't get ahold of him because the phone either was disconnected or number changed. Sorry to vent but it feels good to let my family here know what I have been going through.

I also, have been dealing with some physical stuff. My Reynaud's is acting up, my EDS is effecting my ankle joint and I am in a brace, and my fibro has flared under all the stress.

My daughter Maria hurt her knee and has spent 2 weeks in a knee imbolizer. Her pain level has also increased, so we are dealing with that issue.

Bob's job is going great he keeps very busy working for Detroit EMS. Elizabeth started Jr high oh my what a difference that is.

Sorry this was so long but I wanted to touch base. I am going to try and be around more hopefully things will settle down.

I love you all very much and I thank you for taking the time to read this. As always my faith has sustained me and will continue to do so. I am on MSN messenger as surfmary94 if anybody wants to chat.

Love and gentle Hugs,

I am so very sorry for all that you are going through at this time, Mary. Last year was like that for me, where things just would not quit raining down on me, and I'm not even going to start getting into any of it. Smile has my e-mail, and has me on messenger as well. She has several addresses, so I'm not sure which one she would respond to the quickest, but drop her a line and refer her to this thread so that she knows she has permission to give you my address to mail me and to add me to your messenger.

You really have had alot on your plate! I'm so sorry to hear about your father passing on. I can certainly relate to what it's like since I also had to deal with a "wicked" step-mother at the age of 16 when I lost my mother to cancer and my father remarried. This lady was pretty nasty so I ended up leaving home at 18 and got married and never looked back. My father passed away around 80 years of age and my step mother moved away up north with her two daughters (not related to me). To this date our family has never seen our father's will and my step mother can't be tracked down. She basically left with everything...I was lucky enough to get my mother's dish collection, but not until after my step mother had used it for years. When my father was close to passing on, he insisted that I receive the dish collection, so things did work out in that sense. My step mother and her daughters ended up with the rest of our father's estate...for the life of me I can't figure out how they did it. Nobody in our family decided to challenge it, I guess. In my scenario, our step mother wouldn't leave our father's bedside so that family could be with him at the end. Luckily, though, my big brother insisted that we have time alone with our father. There was no funeral, by request, so our family held their own remembrance of our father. To me, there's still been no closure, wondering what my step mother got away with. It boggles me how insensitive people can be, especially when we need support and forgiveness during such a time of need in our lives. I am forever grateful for the memories I have because I know my step mother can't take those away from me.

I will keep your mother in law in my thoughts and prayers. I know how terrible chemo and radiation is, as well. I'll pray for all of you to find the strength, and courage to get through this, as well.

I hope Maria's knee gets better with time. I landed hard on both knees awhile back and thought I had broke something for sure. The Dr. said we're more durable than we realize and it most likely has bruising on the bone area, so I hope that's what it is with your daughter, as well, and not something serious.

I'm glad to hear that Bob's job is going well! That's great news! I remember when my daughter started junior high, too. They really do grow up way too fast!

I think I have you on my messenger already but if it's the wrong one then you can add me if you like.

Keep us posted on how things are going for you and we'll continue to keep all of you in our thoughts and prayers!

You certainly have had so much to deal with,.

I hope that things start looking up for you very soon.

It's great to meet you and hope to get to know you soon.

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Thank you so much for the kind words. I tis so nice to know that your family is still here. My Faith continues to keep me sustained and I am so blessed with a wonderful husband. If I can figure how to get to multiply I will be moving over as well.

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