When you allow loving energy to flow through your life, many new people come in to share, exchange, teach, learn and help you on your path.  My path has been graced over the last six years by the presence of a woman who was tiny in stature yet giant in spirit, faith and compassion.  Her name was May  and she transitioned Monday, just shy of the age of 84.

 

May had every reason to be bitter, resentful and angry at what life laid on her table.

In 84 years, she buried two husbands, her 30 year old son and her 42 year old daughter. Yet she wasn't bitter or resentful or angry...she loved.  She loved everyone who came into her life and made them feel welcomed, cared for and part of her family. This love extended to my "third father", Morris, with whom she joyously shared the last seven years. And she extended this love to me, the way a mother would love a son, and I cherished her love and wisdom.

 

She and I shared a special connection with spirit.  We both were grounded in an ancient Jewish concept that really is a universal, Hakol Beseder, which means everything is in divine order. She understood that in life, we do everything humanly possible to live our path and after we have exhausted all that we can do, life is Hakol Beseder. It is that trust in the basic order that liberates us from resentment, bitterness and anger.  Not that we don't feel the pain and suffering of loss or get angry at other people or the divine....but it is when we learn to accept and not to hang on and dwell in this darkness that we come to a state of peaceful acceptance and understanding.  This liberation allows us to continue to live, learn, love and experience life...our real purpose for being.

 

The people who came to bid her farewell at the funeral today each shared their cherished moments of feeling May's love and they all beamed with it!  At the cemetery, a dreary, damp and chilly New York afternoon turned into a warm, glowing love fest as the sun broke through the clouds, acknowledging her presence.  You could almost hear her say, "Only the best for my friends and family!"  That was what she always gave...her best.

 

Today is my 48th birthday.  For the last three years around the time of my birthday, I have attended the funerals of people I loved.  I could be bitter, resentful and angry...but I'm not.

I see May's deep blue eyes and pixie-like smile beaming at me and together we say, "Hakol Beseder! Everything is in divine order."  I love you May  and we will be together again.