Excellent question, I LOVE it when people ask me that!

There are several things that you can do. Here are some very good ways, to get you started.

 

* Meditate and ask your spirit guides/loved ones to come around you or meditate "with" you, to connect with you. (This is the most effective way, in my opinion).

 

* Talk to the spirits around you. Out loud, or to your guides, silently "in your head" type talking.

My guides and I for instance have full, open communication to each other. I tell them about everything. Think of your guide as your very best friend, who is always with you, learning and growing with you. Please remember that a spirit guide will never, ever do or say anything to hurt you. If you begin hearing hurtful messages inside of you, they are coming from  your own subconscious, and not your spirit guides. Start out by telling your guides what you are comfortable with, and then as you begin to trust each other more, your relationship and communication will automatically increase.

 

* This is something I did a lot in the beginning, and still often do. For instance, I have three "main" guides who are always with me, two men and one woman. I have others, as we all do, but they are in the background more, and are called higher guides and master teachers. We don't interact with them too much, unless there are different circumstances. Anyhow, with my three closet guides who are with me constantly, I picked a symbol for each guide. I started with my female guide, Jia. When I was meditating one day, and asked her to come around me, I saw a beautiful white chrysanthemum. Ever since then, that has been our "sign". Your sign can be anything. Years ago I was meditating and asked my aunt, in spirit, to come near me. As soon as I opened my eyes, I glanced and saw a beautiful sparkling blue light. This became our sign. Signs can be anything. Maybe you are staring at something (like a yellow rose, or a cross) and all of a sudden, you just start to "feel" or know your guide, or a specific loved one is with you. That can be your sign with them. Then when you think about them, or do things to draw them close, you will just stumble upon your sign within a day or two, I guarantee it! That is a big way to communicate a big message, with not a lot of actual connection needed at first.

 

* Also, since you are asking, and becoming open to their presence, that is a way as well. As soon as they can feel that you are more "open" to them, they know its "ok" to come around you a little stronger.

 

* Spirit energy is very intense,  very loving and beautiful, and just knowing and feeling your spirit guides and loved ones around you will add a whole new dimmension to your life.

 

* Also, pay attention to any symbols or signs you see in your dreams. (I am a symbologist, and have studied various symbols, probably thousands and thousands for a very long time). So if you ever see a symbol in a dream or meditation you don't understand, feel free to give me a hollar, and we'll get the message from it!

 

* That's a good way, also. Spirits love to communicate by symbols, in dreams and meditations. Just pay a little more attention to whats going on around you, try to relax your mind a little each day when sitting in your comfortable chair, and pay attention to the feelings inside of you. Notice if you feel gentle energy softly moving around you, or feel energy near you. When you do (eventually you will, trust me) relax, close your eyes, and see how you feel. Who comes to mind? One of your guides, or perhaps your loved ones? There is a very, verry special spirit who has decided to come into my life along with my "main" guides at this time, for many different reasons. She is full of a love I have never experienced before. I know each time she is with me, because other than being able to actually see her (clairvoyantly) she always presents herself with a soft, cool, very gentle breeze or "gush" of wind. So when you feel a presence near you when relaxing, see how you really feel, and try to see if you can tell who you think it may be.

 

* Also, a little tip, for a few different reasons, spirits (all of them that I know of) LOVE fresh flowers. Easiest way - put a vase of fresh flowers either from the store or preferably from a garden on the table.

 

* There are so many different ways. A lot of people in this community have asked how to enhance their psychic ability, in particular their clairvoyant and clairaudient ability, and I was asked to post a little about

ways to develop each.

 

Here you go - I hope this helps!

 

To develop clairvoyant ability (being able to see different energies and spirits), the best way is to meditate and focus on the third eye (space between the eyebrows, in the forhead). If you are finding after a certain

amount of time you aren't seeing any images which will probably appear at first as different flashes of light, then try this. Before you meditate, light a candle. Focus your attention on the flame of the candle for

several minutes. Then close your eyes, and hold the image of the flame in your third eye for as long as you can. Don't force it. If it "goes away" let it. See if it changes shape or form.

 

Another way that I found which sounds a little odd, but can be very effective if practiced a little over time. Sit comfortably on the couch or your favorite chair. Relax! Breate! Nice and slow, relaxing full breaths.

You want to face a wall that where it is bare, and preferably a light color (I used to do this while looking at a white wall, sitting back, and still do when I relax at night). Don't stare at one spot, just at the wall for

a few minutes here and there. After several tries depending on your state and your openness, you will begin to see tiny, sparking lights or possibly small, soft mists against the wall. Don't force it. Just let it

happen. Everything you begin to see and experience is completely natural, and shows your open state of mind.

 

To start to develop - enhance clairaudient ability (being able to hear spirits) the easiest way is to sit and quiet your mind (meditation for instance) and pay attention to any words that "pop" into your head.

You know that "little voice inside of you?" Ask your guides to guide that little voice. I did this with one of my male guides who I didn't feel connected with at times, and he guided that little voice to a point

to where I know at different times that it specifically IS him.

 

I also wanted to mention that aside from meditation, there is another state where it becomes the easiest to see, hear, and feel with our natural spiritual gifts.

When you are laying down, and about to doze off to sleep, there is a specific, special state that the mind and consciousness is in, just before falling asleep, but

when you are not quite asleep yet. Keep your mind gently focused on or open to that state, that state is by far the easiest state in my opinion to develop your abilities, and in

particular clairaudience. You will start to notice noises around you, as you will be hearing noises from the other plane.

 

I hope I have helped, and as always, if you ever have any questions about anything I say, whether in a private reading or in general, I am always here for you!

I hope that we learn and grow together!

 

Love,

Mary