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| | | From: Tony (Original Message) | Sent: 6/9/2005 12:20 AM |
I am about to miss a big day for 2 very beautiful girls, they will be turning 11 on friday and as they are still my step daughters until the 23rd I am not sure what to do . Do I get them something don't I ? I know it isnt their fault and I know they love me dearly so I think it will make me feel better knowing that I got them something and didnt forget them or leave them out on their special day. It is just me venting and this will make me feel better knowing they are thinking of me .I hope they grow up fine as they can always count on me if they need me.I really need to start a journal. Ok I am done venting for now LOL . sorry if I took up too much space. |
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Tony - let me say that first - starting a journal is a good idea. It will really help you blow off a lot of steam. Second, about your step-daughters. They were a part of your life and you should only give them a gift if it is coming from the heart. If you feel that you are giving them a gift out of obligation, then there is no point in prolonging the inevitable. However, if as I suspect, that you do care about the girls, then there is nothing wrong with giving them a gift. I don't know how they will take it, and don't know how their mom will let them interpret it, but if it's coming from the heart, then you cannot do wrong. Go with your gut and do not worry about what others think. E |
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| | | From: Tony | Sent: 6/9/2005 11:04 AM |
Thanks E , It would be from the heart . And yes I am starting a journal so I can blow off some steam. Thanks again. |
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Hi Tony, Your letter touched me. It is obvious that you care about your stepdaughters so do give them a gift from your heart. Children can never recieve too much love and tenderness from the important adults around them. I am sorry that they will not be a part of your daily life anymore. I can sense that hurts quite a bit. Journaling can be a good conduit for your emotions and can give you a means to settle yourself emotionally and spiritually. Blessings, Searching You hardly take any space at all. |
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| | | From: Tony | Sent: 6/10/2005 11:09 PM |
I sent them a card and a gift card because they asked me for skates . Thats all I can do because I dont want to make it hard on them or me. I know they will be fine and they know how to get me. I did call and talk to them to make sure they got toys or skates they have enough clothes....LOL Thank you for listening to my vent. I am sure everything will work out fine I have faith it will . Plus a good friend told me it would (right Lou...LOL) . I am sure I will use this board at times . Thanks Again. Time to get that journal going....pen and paper are ready . hehe Tony |
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Tony....you did the right thing! I'm proud of you!!! *smile* And, YES............you're not going to be alone for very long! Keep those eyes open! Office setting work, petite with reddish brown hair (perhaps, highlighted)....in her early 30's or so. She's a charmer!!! *smile* And, that journal is the best thing that you can do for yourself!!! VENT AWAY in there! Put in all of your thoughts and feelings! There's something about writing it out on paper (actually using a pen and paper...not typing it) that really does get it out of your head and heart! It's like opening a garbage can and dumping the unwanted stuff....even if it means that you have to write out the same things 200 times until it feels like it's gone!!! Just do it! It WORKS!!! With all of my very best, Louellen |
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| | | From: Tony | Sent: 6/23/2005 11:56 AM |
Well today is D (divorce) Day . Everything can only get better from here . I hope. I pray it doesn't take long to get better. Thanks to everyone for the warm words. Tony |
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| | From:  samabal | Sent: 6/23/2005 2:35 PM |
Tony - Good luck today. I can attest that it WILL get better. Be strong and know that all of us here are thinking of you. Gail (samabal) |
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| | | From: Tony | Sent: 6/23/2005 11:14 PM |
Well here is how things went or almost didn't. I picked her upat her house this morning at 930 we had to be in court at 10 to make sure we had all our paperwork in order . Well around 1130 we went to sit in court . I talked to the clerk because we had nothing to split and no alimony at all so we figured nice and easy day. Well we filled out the papers and at 100 took lunch til 200 , court started again the judge left at 230 and we thought that we weren't going to be seen until next week or later. We got a new judge at 315 . There were 3 cases left . Guess who was last US and then 415 we got divorced. So it is official and now the healing begins . |
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Good luck to you Tony and hugs. In one year, look back at this day and you will see how well things have progressed for you. E |
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| | | From: Tony | Sent: 6/24/2005 10:11 PM |
E , I am going to do that and see how things are and how much I have "missed out on" by looking at that "closed door", Because as they say when one door closes another opens and we just seem to look at that closed door too long realize another has opened. So as this healing begins and my eyes stay open I will cherish the good times and learn from the bad . Thanks again for the thoughts. Tony |
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