Lets try on big sisters shoes and look at things from her prespective.
ok I have 2 older sister's and two younger brothers we are all in our 40~58
The oldest sister my why I am venting
WE have three birthday's in Oct...we had a birthday Lunch yesterday...........
for Our MOM 
MY Neice and My grandson
the dinner was at the sister house her daughter's birthday...next to me in age...
Our oldest sister....has her BA degree in early childhood and is a college prof at the local college
she owned a daycare before and while she was in college..........she is a huge Church goer Baptist....
her daughter is in her late 30 and is not married and has no children..... She has it made Financially but she lacks what you have... a fine beautiful grandson, possibly she put her all into achieving goods? Gilted does not mean happy sweetie
They didn't come for Lunch yesterday.......but yet they come for Cake.....First of all....They had a gift for my Mom ...and a Card with money for my neice that's fine also.....But They didn't have anything for MY GRANDSON >>>>>>>>>> Possibly knowing your situation and the hardship it would put on you to reciprocate gifts?? I am soooo Upset at the fact that they could be that HURTFUL>>>when we lived in AZ even in her late 30 I would buy something for my neice her daughter....and the last year we don't have the money to buy anything...She ended the game..and this year in June my husband lost his job and we are really having a hard time.....she had called me once and was talking about her younger days having a hard time....I really don't like asking for anything..but if our poor parents would not be helping us out....we might be homeless right now.... ( is she helping your parents help you? allowing you to not feel beholden to her)before ending her call with me she said just ask if I needed anything....what is up with that..........If you had money and you knew how hard it is for a family member would you have them to ASK for help from You?????? if you were afraid to insult them, have them think they had became your favorite charity? I think big sis is full of self pride, possibly she doesn't know how to give from the heart. Wouldn't know how to recieve it if she were wearing your shoes.
And I think It was Just HEARTLESS for them to walk in without something for my grandson....IT HURTS ME TO THE BONE>>>>>>>>>>>>and WE and when we lived in AZ she would tell me how she wished we was closer........BULL****.........
for someone to have their career in EARLYCHILDHOOD//////////should they not have thought of the HURT, what money we could get we bought clothes for him ....things he needs, He just turned 8 and it just hurts me to the bone they don't treat him nice.... Maybe she was thinking of how she personally would feel if she had to ask or couldn't reciprocate a gift?? Remember this lady put her all into achieving.. thats who she is
I still don't feel any better............I thought I might after getting it OUTTTTT...........SCREAM>>>>>>lol
might scar my dogs if I scream.......
At the end of the day.. she told you " just ask if you need anything" Open some commucication with big sister sweetie
Love and Light deb ps: a Boil not opened..... festers
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And, perhaps, in her rather "round-about-way" of telling you to ask for help if you needed anything, she was letting you know (by her own earlier hardship story) that being in that position, isn't a very "proud" situation to have to be in and perhaps, she was letting you know that she didn't want to go and give you money outright, but should you ASK for it or ask for her to buy something in particular, she would??????
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